As you arouse your lover and prepare her to have multiple, ejaculatory orgasms, you will be doing a lot to “warm her up” and turn her on.
This can take up to an hour, but I’ve found for most women, at least 20 minutes of stimulation are required for her to be relaxed enough and turned on enough for th juices to start flowing, once she’s learned to ejaculate.
I recommend starting with a genital massage. Start with organic oil. Sweet Almond or Coconut are nice. There are two kinds of coconut oil – regular and fractionated. Regular is actually solid up to about 76 degrees and you have to melt it in your hand. Fractionated has been processed so it says liquid, but I don’t like it as much. The molecules have been altered and it doesn’t feel as smooth to me.
You can see how sensitive I am that I can feel the difference between fractionated and regular coconut oil. Your gal may be just like me, very sensitive. And you’re going to be awakening even more sensation in her as you two journey together in your ejaculatory exploration.
You want something at first that’s a little tackier, sticker than lube, for the massaging. Organic almond or coconut oil works well on the outside areas of her genitals and her whole body. I get my at a local organic grocery store.
Rub her outer lips, inner lips, clitoral area, urethral area, slowly work your way into her G-Area, very delicately, just to locate the zones. Feel around in there (just with one finger and very gently) and stroke in a way that brings you pleasure as well as her.
Take about 30 minutes or longer if she’s really enjoying it.
You can stop there, or proceed to this next level of stimulation.
Once she’s warmed up and very responsive to your touch, you want to move to a lube that’s better for internal touch. Sliquid Silk or Swiss Navy Silicone lubricant, something that’s more slippery. Make sure what you use does not contain Parabens, as they’ve been thought to be carcinogenic. There’s no research that proves it, it could be an urban legend. But why chance it when there are great lubes that are Paraben-free?
Warm up lube on your left hand, spread it around and put it onto your pointer and index fingers on your right hand. These are what you will slip inside her.
I like to start with Sliquid Silk, as this feels great on my clit. But as I start to squirt, Swiss Navy is more viscous and stays on better. You’ll need to reapply as she squirts it off.
Remember, every woman is different. One of my friends loves Vaseline as her lube of choice. One of my girlfriends has very sensitive skin and barely uses any lube, preferring to go very slowly and use only her natural juices. Another uses a natural Hemp-based lube.
Some women like it super slippery, others like a bit of tackiness – they say it helps them feel more sensation. I like a changing landscape of lubes throughout my lovemaking, depending on what I’m doing.
Find out what you and she like and lay in a big supply.
With love,
Tallulah Sulis
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really good tip