Have you listened to Dr. Patti’s Interview with Daka Raj yet about using the Open Mind concept to create Love Lines or Sexy Talk with your partner?
Here is the interview transcript, in ebook form, you can download to your computer and print out and read along as you listen again to hear the Keys being applied to lovemaking. (The transcript, with Keys noted is also pasted below to read right now.)
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Each time Daka Raj uses one of the 4 Keys to Seduction or the 3 Keys to Being Her Sexual Trainer, Dr. Patti has noted it in the transcript.
From: Dr. Patricia Taylor
Dear Friend,
This interview is chock-full of examples of Seduction Mastery.
I have noted, for one time each, the use of principles (or Keys) from my Seduction Trilogy. Please keep in mind, this entire talk is loaded with examples of masterful seduction in action. While this exchange with Daka Raj is fairly sexual in nature, I encourage you to notice for yourself many other examples where Daka Raj is working with my Seduction Keys and ongoing Sexual Training principles throughout the interview.
In my new Seduction Trilogy, I have created three complimentary books that teach you the Four Keys to Seduction and the Three Keys to Being A Master Sexual Trainer.
* In Seduce Her Tonight, you’ll learn “A String of Yeses” and “Erotic Vigilance.”
* In the Seduction Accelerator, you’ll learn “Vision” and “Vulnerability.”
* In Her Sexual Trainer, you’ll learn the Three Keys to becoming a Master Sexual Trainer including, Appreciation, Communication and Incubation.
This amazing and powerful “Open Mind” system can determine the optimal way to give your lover the best type of loving attention, perfectly tuned to the way their mind works.
It’s based on NLP, neuro-linguisitic programming which explains that people tend to be predominantly more visual, auditory or kinesthetic (feeling) in different states of being – during Alpha, Beta and Theta states. Your lover starts in Alpha, moves into Beta as she gets turned on, then segues into Theta, the trance state so perfect for connecting into each other. In each of these three states, she may lead with a different “channel.” She may start auditory, move to kinesthetic and end up at visual.
Your states may be completely different. By understanding how her mind maps the world, you can tune into her arousal more easily and communicate with her in the way it’s most easy for her to access her arousal. Talking dirty to a woman who gets aroused visually is wasted effort. Eye gazing with a visually shy person won’t turn her on. Touching a woman too early in her arousal would be a turn off for her if she doesn’t lead with her kinesthetic mind.
Learning to understand how to start her seduction, move her into arousal and help her surrender to her sensuality by knowing when to give her the right kind of sexy or dirty talk, when to look in her eyes, when to stroke her, may infinitely improve your connection to each other. You’ll find out where there is room to optimize on what you’re already doing well.
Here is my abbreviation guide, where the seven Keys given in my Seduction Trilogy are noted – alongside the manual in which each is found.
* SHT: Seduce Her Tonight: Small Offers, Erotic Vigilance
* SA: Seduction Accelerator: Vulnerability, Vision
* HST: Her Sexual Trainer: Appreciate, Communicate, Incubate
Sexy Talk and Love Lines:
The “Open Mind” System
Interview with Dr. Patti Taylor and Daka Raj
“Since you’re auditory in beta (middle) state, then in the middle of the date I would do something with sound.
So for a guy, I would say,
“Oh, wow, who’s that knocking at the door? All those cheerleaders I invited over?””
Dr. Patti Taylor: In this interview, you’ll learn a cutting-edge technology of lovemaking, discover your power to guide your lover into exquisite states of consciousness when you know how their mind processes information. Learn how to translate this knowledge into hot sexy language, and expert guidance to take your lovemaking to amazing heights of pleasure.
Excerpts from Interview:
Daka Raj: Say you’re actually having a date and you’re going to touch her and stimulate her. You might first start by just admiring her body (Seduce Her Tonight- Erotic Vigilance). You might put your hands on her and start telling her how beautiful her eyes are, and how gentle, how sensual she feels and how soft the inner lips of her pussy are. (Her Sexual Trainer- Appreciation).
Daka Raj: Men often use this material when they are pleasuring someone and she is a little tired. They are wondering, “How can I use this technology (technique) to bring them back to life?” I’ll start talking a lot more and I’ll start using terminology that’ll wake them up.
Dr. Patti Taylor: That’s great. And I think the reverse is also true, is that especially with women it’s been shown that women get orgasmic when they are really relaxed. So they’re very different from men in that respect. In our day and age women are also very mentally dominant at first, and they’re going off in their ‘beta state’. You want discover , using your verbal languaging, how can you bring a woman down into her trance state of mind and relax her enough so that she can get orgasmic without having her pass out. (Seduction Accelerator – Vision) So you really want that full balance and if you can do that with your talking, if you can get her into that, really that full range, well then hey, you know, you’re going to be very popular…
Daka Raj: So for someone who’s very kinesthetic (feeling dominant), I might say, “Wow, you are feeling very good right now,” at the very beginning of a date, or, “I really love how warm your yoni is. And your skin is very soft and I really enjoy touching you.” Now with someone who’s very visual I might start out the date, “Why, you look gorgeous! I love the pink colors of your outer lips and the red highlights, and oh your skin is very beautiful. How rosy it is,” so I’ll just totally change it. Now if they’re auditory I could say, “Ooh, the way you’re vibrating, you sound so beautiful to me.” (Seduce Her Tonight – Erotic Vigilance)
End of Excerpts
Dr. Patti Taylor: Raj, you have studied sensuality intensively for the last seven years. And you are here to share with us today your special interest in using language and understanding of the intersection of mind and body, to have hotter, juicer and more connected lovemaking. So I’m really pleased to have you here with us today. I think our listeners really care what’s on the cutting edge of lover technology. I know I’m always on the lookout for how I can gain an edge in making my sweetie happier and more turned on and gratified. Tell us, Raj, what is a daka and how did you get into this line of work?
Daka Raj: Well a daka is a man who is interested in pleasing women, which is something that I live to do. I also practice Tantra and more recently, in the last seven years I’ve been a student of yours, and recently very intensive studying has been a big part of my life.
Dr. Patti Taylor: I can understand why you’d want to study this line of work if it involves pleasing women, and… being a woman of course. I was just wondering was there anything that motivated you to start along this path, any distinct moment in your life?
Daka Raj: Well actually, initially it was my wife at the time who was interested in having me learn this stuff, because she really wanted me to give her the kind of experience she’d seen other women have. Basically we saw a demo of a woman in orgasm for an hour straight, and she wanted to have that experience, so that really inspired me.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So it’s just been getting better and better ever since then? Were there ever any challenges along the way? What’s been really tough for you along this path?
Daka Raj: I would say there were times when it’s been very challenging. I saw men delivering this kind of pleasure to other women, or even to my sweethearts, and I was like, “Well how can I do that?” And it really was challenging to learn; to master some of the techniques was very challenging. It certainly would be fun to dedicate all my time to doing this.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Just to set the record straight, I don’t think you have exactly quit your day job, exactly yet, have you?
Daka Raj: No. I’m definitely still gainfully employed, and doing this just for fun. But it’s the focus of most of my free time, definitely gratifying women and showing them a good time.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well you know everybody has to have their dream, and you’re living it, and I think a lot of women in the world are better off because of it. So now you particularly have a fascination with expanded orgasm. I’d love to hear what it means to you.
Daka Raj: Well the word ‘expanded’, in the context of lovemaking, is to take pleasure and have it fill your whole body, and even go beyond your body. In addition, you want to involve all the different aspects of your being. You want your mind, you want your body, and you’d love your whole spirit to be involved in the lovemaking, and especially when you’re connecting with a partner, to connect on all these different channels is beautiful.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So full body, full being, mind, heart, body, spirit? Because a lot of people have this idea that you “drop the mind to get into sex and into the higher states,” but that’s not what you’re saying.
Daka Raj: Well when we’re talking about using language, and when we’re talking about using the mind to access lovemaking, you certainly want to, you actually need to involve the mind; it’s a big part… the mind is the biggest sex organ there is, so to not involve the mind would be a waste of a huge part of a human being’s sensual capacity.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Right, it would be. Actually I’ve noticed a lot of very, very intelligent people get into expanded orgasm. I think it’s for that reason. They finally figured out they actually cannot drop their minds, so…
Daka Raj: You might as well make it your friend rather than your enemy, so definitely.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Their minds finally figured something out, “You’re not dropping me. Put me to work, for goodness sakes.”
Daka Raj: Definitely, definitely.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well that’s what they did in your case. How do you use talking then? I guess that’s what you do when you put your mind to work. How does the talking figure in, and can you give us an example? Why talk? I mean, couldn’t talking possibly be a distraction? I guess that’s the first line of thought my mind goes to when I think of using the mind during sex, and I think, maybe for some of our listeners, that’s where they would go.
Daka Raj: Well there’s lots of different ways to use talking for expanding your loving. But when we talk about using the mind, it’s not just about talking, because you can use your mind to turn your partner on. The mind has these different levels, these different states of consciousness that we talk about, or we will talk about later on: the beta, the alpha, and the theta states. Each of these relates to where your brain waves are at. Beta waves (or states) are your everyday survival mind. Alpha is your embodied and relaxed present state. Theta states occur when you are deeply relaxed, even to the point of being in a trance. You can access those states through talking as well as through other means. On the other hand, talking is a way to access the mind that’s very generally available, and use it before a date, during a date, and after a date. And I love to use it especially in my ‘doing sessions’, my manual stimulation and pleasure sessions of a woman.
Note: “DOing” a woman came from the term, “deliberate orgasm,” abbreviated as “DO.”
Dr. Patti Taylor: That’s a point well taken. We’ll start with talking just because it’s a very basic way of engaging the mind, and for you a date is just when you sort of hook-up for any kind of lovemaking connection or doing or pleasuring. Well then… can you give us some examples of some really fun talking or how you might use it or what it might look like, or sound like, or feel like?
Daka Raj: Well let’s kind of mock up a date: Before I even see my girlfriend, I might want to send her an email, “Dear Sweetheart, I’m thinking about your beautiful body, and the thought of putting my hand on your pussy is really turning me on.” I might actually send an email out, to that effect, to my beloved, the day we’re going to have a date. Now it’s possible I might even do that beforehand, a few days beforehand. When we’re actually together, say we’re actually having a date, and I’m going to touch her and stimulate her. I might first start just admiring her body. I might put my hands on her and start telling her how beautiful her eyes are, and how gentle, how sensual she feels and how soft her lips, her inner lips of her pussy are. (Her Sexual Trainer – Appreciation).
Dr. Patti Taylor: Hmmm, wow! Lucky girlfriend! Right? So if I could just go back for a moment, does she like these letters? How does she respond? Does she get all turned on by just these letters that you’re writing?
Daka Raj: Well I think the letters plant little seeds, because a woman oftentimes has her job, her work, her things, her life. The letters are just one thing I might do. The other thing is really to put my attention on her, and that may look very different than the letter, but the letter will plant a little seed in her mind that will be working through the day, and she definitely likes them.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, great. So fast forward now, you’re telling her… and you use the word ‘pussy’, or ‘yoni’, which is another word I’ve heard you use for the woman’s pussy. And so now you’re starting the date and you tell her that her eyes look beautiful, and her skin is soft, and, what else do you do? What other kinds of talking and why? And are all women like this? Or do they like to get non-verbal, and does this always help? Or do you just sort of check in each time, and is it different, or do you find the talking is always going to add to, and focus the date? Are there any rules of thumb about this? Or does it change for every woman?
Daka Raj: Let’s start talking about the whole representation systems that people have. I don’t think people talk about this that much in lovemaking, but I’ve found it incredibly useful, and that’s the concept that people have systems in which they learn, how they learn. It’s actually something you can use in work; you can use it in education, and it actually turns out to be really useful in lovemaking. A year and a half ago I ran across this body of work, and the book I read is by Dawna Markova, called The Open Mind. And in that book she talks about the way people’s top level of their seats of consciousness, which governs how they interact with the outer world. This is the location of their beta waves (top mode) of their mind. Just below that are their alpha waves, (middle mode) where one experiences a sort of a mild trance, a relaxed state. And even deeper than that is theta, (bottom or deep mode), where you’re creative, where you do your deep thinking or maybe where you’re almost on the edge of sleep. People are all very different in how they access those states.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, great. So the beta waves are where we’re in sort of our workday world, our active mode where we’re kind of running around doing our thing, you know, and that’s our top-level mode, if I’m hearing you, and the middle level is our alpha mode, that’s our kind of relaxed, sort of half-meditative sort of thing. Things are going in and out in kind of a cool way. And then the deep theta level is kind of sort of trancy, hypnotic, very creative, dreamy, but it’s very vulnerable and deep. So there’s like a top, middle, and deep level. And there are very, very different ways that everybody’s minds are kind of structured, and you’re saying that the way people are kind of structured has a huge effect on the way that they enjoy their lovemaking… it’s like a lovemaking profile, and when you can figure out their lovemaking profile, this makes a huge difference in how you can make love to them, or they can make love to you.
Daka Raj: Well I would say it makes a very huge difference, and I’ll give you some examples in a second, but first, I think it might be helpful if they know that there are three different modes that map onto these states of consciousness. One of them is kinesthetic representational system, or feeling. You know, people who like to be touched. And then there’s the auditory, for people who like to talk or be spoken to. And then there is also a visual system, for those people that get turned on by visual images. Now I tend to be visual as my active or top mode. Auditory is my middle mode and kinesthetic is my sort of bottom or ‘trance’ kind of creative mode. I have a lover who’s almost the exact opposite of me. She’s kinesthetic in the active mode, auditory in the middle and then at the bottom she’s visual. So I’ve found that we oftentimes would connect on the auditory level, but sometimes at the very beginning of a date or at the end of a date, we might have a fight, or we might… I’d come home for work, for example, and I’d see her and I’d start talking to her, or I’d have a certain expectation that she’d be happy to see me, with a smile on her face, and I wouldn’t see the smile. I’ve learned from this body of work that’s something you shouldn’t expect to see: a smile on a kinesthetic person’s face right off the bat. I got past this expectation, and we were both more connected right from the start, as a result. So anyway, that’s a quick overview of the system.
Dr. Patti Taylor: How can you resolve these differences in styles?
Daka Raj: Well with this one girlfriend is still my girlfriend – and we’re having a very happy time. I’ll give you a couple examples. First of all, I realized that she was very different from me, which was a mind-opening experience in and of itself. Now when I come home from work I don’t expect her to have a smile on her face. I expect her to be somewhere in her mind doing something, and knowing that she likes to be interacted with kinesthetically. When I want to enter her energy, I’ll actually offer a massage, or I’ll give her a head rub, or offer to give her a foot rub. (Seduce Her Tonight – Small Offers). What I used to do is get upset and angry that she wasn’t smiling and happy to see me, and didn’t want to sit face-to-face staring at me and talking.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well was she happy to see you and just not smiling? I mean, was she not happy to see you, or what was the… how did you resolve it? I mean was she just really happy to see you and she’s just not a smiler? Is that what you’re saying?
Daka Raj: Well she’s definitely happy to see me, and yet she didn’t show it the way I was expecting her to show it. And because I have a completely different representational system, and I thought that everyone had the same one as me, I interpreted her actions based on my system, and that was totally wrong.
Dr. Patti Taylor: I’m starting to understand. So once you realized that your smile equals “I want a foot massage” to her, it was like the Rosetta Stone. It’s like okay, drop the desire for a smile and translate that into the offer for a foot massage, and now you can rock and roll. (Seduce Her Tonight – Erotic Vigilance, Small Offers).
Daka Raj: Absolutely. Definitely started the rocking and rolling very fast after that.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay. Well I’m starting to see how you could get excited about this representational system. So what other examples do you have? Because I think this is the kind of thing where examples kind of help to make it concrete.
Daka Raj: The other big example, which definitely comes into lovemaking, is this woman I used to kiss all the time the first few years of our relationship, and then all of a sudden it just started becoming less and less interesting to her and I couldn’t understand why, at first. And when I learned the system, we started talking about it and I taught her a little bit about the system and what we realized is that when I was kissing her it was really fun for me because it was really getting me relaxed and in a more soothing state, and I was coming down from my vision… I could see her really close; that was stimulating, and I was kind of getting into my kinesthetic state, but she was feeling trapped. You know I would just be kissing her and she would be getting more and more and more like “freaked out.” And when I learned this and we had this conversation. She said if I start moving my hands and touching her and caressing her body, that would help her be present, and I also would take my mouth away, and put it back and take it back away, and she just loved it. She loved that whole new plan, and now we’re kissing all the time, so a year and a half without kissing, and a lot of upset on my part, and I would blame her and get upset at her, and all of a sudden we’re doing it again. It’s beautiful. (Her Sexual Trainer – Communication).
Dr. Patti Taylor: Right. Well I’m gathering that the breath was kinesthetic and her eyes are closed; you just started kissing, so she’s not full-body, full-being yet because she’s not all warmed up
Daka Raj: That’s absolutely true. She’s still in her external, kinesthetic mode.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So since her visual is on the bottom, people like her don’t want to do eye-gazing right away. So people with the visual on the bottom in this system might hate eye-gazing, right? What if you are with one of those people that says, “I cannot stand eye-gazing, and what’s the matter with me?” You need to wait until their partner is really, really turned on, because it’s deeply vulnerable for them. So here she is and she doesn’t want to kiss because it’s too soon, and yet you’re holding her, I’m guessing, and you’re wanting to gaze into her eyes, and you’re kind of sort of grabbing onto her, and you’re just happy because you’re kinesthetic; your feeling state is in the deep trance. It’s putting you into a trance, so you’re sort of trancing out on her and getting very still and just kind of freaking her out, right? And the auditory is the lips, so that part’s working. Now when you start moving, and she’s breathing on you, so… and maybe that’s when you pull your lips away. Maybe she likes it when she can breathe on you too when you pull your lips away? I’m projecting here a little. I don’t know. Is that happening?
Daka Raj: All that’s happening. I think she felt uncomfortable when she was about three inches away from me and very still at the beginning of a date. It felt too close and non-kinesthetic for her. It was one of many reasons why it just didn’t really work for her. And when I discovered that I could move my hands and touch her and also give her space to breathe, and otherwise let her move around, all of a sudden it became a wonderful experience for her. (Seduce Her Tonight – Erotic Vigilance). Later on in the date, maybe way at the very end of a date where we’re making love, it would be a very intimate experience, where she’d actually settle way down. She’d look very closely at me and gaze into my eyes.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So, that wonderful. But back to the kissing, what’s the end of that story? How is your kissing now?
Daka Raj: Absolutely amazing. We’ll kiss for half an hour. We’ll just be cuddling, caressing, kissing, breathing on each other. It’s a whole-bodied whole-being experience now that involves all those different states of consciousness.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, great. So this is a wonderful success story. So let’s take a look and maybe… I’m wondering, is this something men can learn on their own? What are some of the things that maybe they could do to try and type some of these characteristics out for themselves? They might want to go home and figure out how their partner fits into these categories. Like I know visual people tend to be the eye-gazers, but I know it may or may not be that easy, because some visual people are like the straight-on gazers. They’ll look into your eyes for hours, and yet some visual people are on and off eye-gazers too. So are there some tips that we could get started with right in that right away?
Daka Raj: Absolutely. I would say these aren’t hard and fast rules but these are my tips. One of them would be if you know someone whose facial affect is pretty flat most of the time, or when they’re not actually actively doing something or talking to you, they typically are people who are kinesthetic in the beta state, so their outer representation system for dealing with information is kinesthetic.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So translation for people like me, who kind of like it simple, that just means the feeling people don’t have a lot of facial expression, but it doesn’t mean they’re not feeling a lot. In fact, it’s quite the reverse. They’re big feelers, but it doesn’t show in their face for some reason. They just like to move around a lot, a lot of the time, and somehow they don’t have a lot of facial expression in their top-level everyday state.
Daka Raj: Yeah. When they’re actively doing stuff like work, or looking for a book, or doing something very active, that’s not in a relaxed state, they tend not to have much facial expression.
Dr. Patti Taylor: All right. Well moving right along, how about the auditory people in their active state?
Daka Raj: They will be the ones who tend to be talkers. People who like to talk, like to listen, like to have conversations, someone you can talk to for six hours straight, and they don’t even get tired. They don’t even notice they’re talking. They just love to talk, and that would be someone who’s probably auditory in the upper levels.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well I think we can identify those people pretty easily. Okay, how about the visual people?
Daka Raj: Okay, people who are visual on top tend to be people who just look at you straight in the eye. You know, they just want to… and they don’t even know they’re doing it sometimes. People who are visual on the bottom tend to be very visually shy. It’s a very intimate experience to look at them right in the eye, and they’ll kind of tend to look away or be shy, or like that.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well let’s go on. Some other characteristics of lovers, possibly. How about if there’s some disconnect? For example, what might that look like?
Daka Raj: The first example was the one where you come home from work and my girlfriend used to not even give me a kiss when I walked in the door, so that was one thing. A bigger disconnect was that at the end of a fun evening, I’d leave her and she wouldn’t even smile when I walked out the door. And I was like, well we just had a hot date and I’m leaving and I want to feel like she actually likes me or can’t wait to see me again, and I don’t even get a look or a smile when I walked out the door, so it felt like to me there was something wrong. And when I actually talked to her and checked it out, I realized, “Aha, she’s kinesthetic on top. She’s not even going to show me a look when she’s already on to the next thing and her face is flat again.” So I actually had a conversation with her and we actually worked it out so she puts more consideration into my needs and I recognize where she’s coming from, and it’s been much better ever since.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So this can be a really great way to have a conversation about what you’re understanding about each other’s needs as well. (Seduction Accelerator – Vulnerability).
Daka Raj: Absolutely. Yes.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Yeah, because I’ve heard you work, and talk with a student about it too. He was having a hard time verbalizing and getting in touch with giving her partner feedback. What was going on in that situation?
Daka Raj: Well she was auditory in the upper level and kinesthetic at the bottom and had the visual in between, so there’s the disconnect between her voice and what she was feeling. So it’s been a challenge for her to actually notice what she’s feeling and say what she’s feeling all at the same time, because it’s such a big disconnect for her.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So there are women out there and, I’m guessing, men out there… who find it very easy to give feedback to their partner. Some people are great at it; you can hardly shut them up. I’m kind of like that, you know. I’m really good at it; I mean I had to learn, it’s true, because I used to be like mute, but I was able to learn to really ask for what I wanted, and now I’m really good at following my feelings and really… I can actually see exactly what I want and visualize it and map it and express it. Actually, I’m kind of full-body, full-feeling, and I can follow the feeling and visualize and verbalize and I’m pretty good at it. But there are some people for whom I think that’s really, really hard. They have such a hard time asking for what they want. They just blank out and I think it’s deeper than the fact they just haven’t had practice. I just think that because they’re maybe auditory in their deepest most vulnerable state? Perhaps their feeling state is in their active everyday state; now there’s a disconnect, since their visual state would be in the middle. Their words would be disconnected from their feelings, and so that’s sort of a bigger hump to overcome.
Daka Raj: Yes. What I would recommend someone like that to experiment with is to visualize what they’re feeling and then report what they’re visualizing, or report what they imagine would feel good, because then you’re using your visual part of your mind to engage that gap between the two. (Her Sexual Trainer – Appreciation, Communication, and Incubation).
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well all of this really I think is great to give us just more of an understanding of how we can really overcome differences.
Daka Raj: One thing I notice myself doing is… You, Patti, are visually shy, so I am actually and purposely not keeping my gaze constant with you. I just wanted to point that out. I just noticed myself doing that, and thought, “Wow, I might as well report that since that’s what we’re talking about.” Basically I’m putting your needs into my consideration, and into my formula for relating to you, right now. (Seduction Accelerator – Vulnerability).
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well thank you. And I do that too. I notice that when I’m talking to clients, I try to guess their needs. If I sense that they’re auditory on the bottom and their feelings are on top, for example, and they really hesitate, and I’ll help them fill in the words. When I’m working with them, once I figure out their representational system setup, I have a better strategy for working with them and helping them. Since we teach people expanded orgasm practices and expanded lovemaking, isn’t the point really for us all to learn – and teach each other – how to engage all three levels of our being?
Daka Raj: Absolutely!
Dr. Patti Taylor: I think that’s where we want to go today, with the talking. Regardless of what is our profile is, how do we really get all of our channels working? Perhaps only one channel is active starting out (either auditory, visual, or kinesthetic). Don’t we really want to get all three of our channels going simultaneously? Isn’t that when it really is the hottest and juiciest lovemaking?
Daka Raj: Most definitely, yes. One of the things that’s really beautiful is if you can actually get your partner’s active (top) state going a little bit, and get their middle state going, and then get their theta state going. Wow! You can get them in a highly energized and highly trancy state that’s very turned on.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Because who wants to be in a trancy state and fall asleep while they’re turned on? Now, tell me more. So then what happens? (The following are all excellent examples of Seduce Her Tonight – Erotic Vigilance, and also Her Sexual Trainer, Appreciation.)
Daka Raj: Once the date is underway, if the woman is very auditory, I might say something like, “The sound of your vibration is incredibly musical.” Or if she’s very visual, in the middle of the date, I might say, “I can see these beautiful colors starting to blossom in your pussy.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Uh huh, and if she’s kinesthetic?
Daka Raj: Well then I’ll be, “I can feel your vibrations filling the room.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Ooh! How about towards the end of a date?
Daka Raj: Well then I’ll start getting more ethereal. I might just start saying one or two words. Let me just think about this … what I would say in any kind of date, so for anyone…
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay. We’ll give you a moment to think about that one. [laughs]
Daka Raj: [laughs] Well I actually have to put myself into a trance to actually say this, so I don’t even know what’s going to come out of my mouth.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay.
Daka Raj: But “sparkling stars”, “enervating connection”, “flowers blooming”, “deep waters”, “hot bubbling energy”… those are some of the phrases that come to mind right now; I put myself into a little bit of a trance to come up with them, and depending on what kind of woman she is, I might use one or the other.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Ooh, “twinkling yoni galaxies are sprouting like flowers after a monsoon.”
Daka Raj: That would be perfect for you because you’re visual at the bottom.
Dr. Patti Taylor: [laughs] Right, and I like to expand things.
Daka Raj: Absolutely.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Yes, I did like that image, now that you mention it.
Daka Raj: Yes, you look like you’re sort of in that semi-coming state right now, you know.
Dr. Patti Taylor: I think I got all three channels lined up, because it also got kind of warm in here. What is that, my kinesthetic?
Daka Raj: Definitely.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Or am I now full-body, all channels open, or have I mixed metaphors?
Daka Raj: I think you have all the channels going all at once, yes.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, I think your talking is very effective, Raj.
Daka Raj: Thank you.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Now, Daka Raj, I want to ask you about examples about how to use this information to have hotter, juicier talking.
Daka Raj: Just a couple things. We were talking about what you would say when you’re deep in the middle of a date. And I was just thinking of a few additional things I might say. “Hot melting lava pouring out” might be something I‘d say to someone who is kinesthetic. Or “musical notes enervate my mind,” or something like that, for someone who’s more auditory. So I just wanted to share those two for you today.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Now let’s talk about the man a little bit. What if I were going to use some of these things on you? Let’s figure out how we can translate some of this wonderful stuff onto some things that a man might like to hear. So starting on the sexual portion of our date I might say to you, or the appropriate man, “Oh, your crown (the head of your cock) looks really wonderfully firm and smooth right now.” That would be visual. Right?
Daka Raj: Mm hmm.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Or would it be auditory because that’s what the man would hear?
Daka Raj: Well I think, when we’re talking, it’s always auditory. But when we can use visual terminology, the picture we create in our mind and in our experience will be more visual, so I think for me that would be perfect.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, because you’re visual on top. So if I said, “Oh, you know, your cock, it’s just throbbing and it’s pink and glistening a little bit and I just love how hard it is right now, and this really turns me on…”
Daka Raj: That would definitely work for me!
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, so starting out we just want to get really descriptive, okay. Since you’re auditory in beta (middle) state, then in the middle of the date I would do something with sound. So for a guy, what would I say, “Oh, wow, who’s that knocking at the door? All those cheerleaders I invited over?”
Daka Raj: Then you’re getting the imagination, which is perfect, actually. I like that, as a guy. But you could also say something like, “Oh, your breathing sounds so beautiful,” if you really want to keep it focused, if you don’t want to bring in the other aspects. But if you do want to bring in the cheerleaders and the imagination, that’s actually fun too. (Her Sexual Trainer – Incubation)
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well thanks, but, let’s keep it simple… Okay, okay. Your breathing or what else? Give me some examples.
Daka Raj: Uhm… well you caught me off guard here.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well the breathing one was good example.
Daka Raj: You could say something… “The sound…” actually, “the sound of my hand on your cock is music to my ears.”
Dr. Patti Taylor: Oohhh. Or how about this, “I’m really enjoying the rhythm of the music, as my hand is going up and down on you. I’m just loving the rhythm, mmm mmm.” And maybe just making some sounds with my own voice, like “ooohhh, ooohh, yum. Ooh yum, this feels so good.” Would the sound of my own voice kind of going “mmm and “ahhh” be an auditory stimulation?
Daka Raj: Absolutely. It would be delicious. And actually even…it would actually feel good too, but the sounds would be very fun. (Her Sexual Trainer – Communication).
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, so “mmm” and “ahhh”, and… you said kissing was a…
Daka Raj: Primarily auditory because it’s the mouth. Anything that causes the mouth to move is auditory.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So if I was pleasuring you and I started to kiss you at the same time, would that be an auditory stimulation?
Daka Raj: Absolutely. That sounds good to me!
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, so getting little pointers here… People, go find out what your partner’s pattern is. You can find out and then you can ask for the timing of when you’re going to get kissed, okay? Beginning, middle or end? Okay. For you, it’s at the beginning. All right. Now, at the end, is your visual, so that’s when I take off my clothes, right? No, seriously, you’re visual at the end, so then I would…
Daka Raj: Actually, I’m visual at the beginning, so you can take your clothes off right at the beginning for me!
Dr. Patti Taylor: Right, okay. Off with the clothes. Okay, so you’re kinesthetic at the end. Well we’ve been kinesthetic all along, so I would want to use words that were very kinesthetic, like, “I am just feeling so melty and bubbly. Wow, these feelings are just shooting all… oh they’re going all the way down my legs. And oh my contractions. I’m feeling your contractions and mine, and I’m just about to melt into a puddle. Oh, I’m feeling more of your pulses; they’re just shooting right to the top of my head. Oh wow, they’re just going right through the whole room! The whole room is vibrating, wow! I’m feeling you and me and I feel so good.” Would that be an example of accessing the kinesthetic?
Daka Raj: That would be absolutely perfect.
Dr. Patti Taylor: [laughs] What are some other examples?
Daka Raj: Well I think you’ve pretty much covered them all. And I’m already in a hot melty trance myself. So that’s great.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Well so you see it doesn’t take that much. So that’s the good news out there for all you women who thought, “Oh, this sounds like really complicated,” because you know I’m no rocket scientist here. And this is pretty easy for me, so I think that’s the good news. That’s the verdict on The Open Mind book. It’s a lot easier than you might think, for us women listening to the show that just want to impress the guys here and show them a good time.
Daka Raj: Yes, definitely.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Interesting. Interesting,Daka Raj: It is a little quieter now; you’ve kind of put me into a little bit of a trance.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay. I am now waving my hand in front of Raj’s face…getting him back into a visual place, because I think I activated his deep vulnerable place with my example here. [laughs] (Seduction Accelerator – Vision).
Daka Raj: That’s good. Perfect, thank you.
Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay. Well, so we’re almost out of time but I would like to ask you one final question. First I just want to thank you for giving us these great examples and thank you for your vulnerability.
Daka Raj: Well thank you for giving me the great examples for the men too.
Dr. Patti Taylor: So one final question: What do you think you contribute to the world by learning about and giving to women the art and pleasure of expanded orgasm?
Daka Raj: I think whenever anyone’s focused on fun they’re making the world a better place to live. So that’s one piece of it. The other thing is, I love women. Women totally turn me on, and it’s my greatest joy to put all my attention on a woman, and to serve women. I think if the world has more happy women in it, it’s an even better place, a much better place. (A True Seduction Master Attitude, all the way around!)
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