How Can I Get More of the Melting Feelings From Intercourse Orgasms?
One of the ways I learn information and process concepts is to talk it through out loud or to write about it. Hence, I’m a blogger.
Here’s what I’m trying to work out and I’d REALLY appreciate your personal comment below to help me:
Hubby and I have been focused on improving the quality of our intercourse together. In our lovemaking, we put a lot of attention on getting better and better and it’s not uncommon for us to say to each other after a lovemaking session…
“Wow, that was the best sex we ever had!”
We spent a few years getting really good at Expanded Orgasm, learning from Dr. Patti’s material. Then we wanted to teach me to squirt so we learned from Tallulah, and now, I have to say, the towels are sodden and between the DOing and the squirting, I am coming at a level of exquisite release I could have never even dreamed of when I was having a few clitoral orgasms during sex.
Lately, we’ve been incrementing our skills in coitus/intercourse… you know, fucking.
I’ve been giving hubby a lot of feedback, teaching him how I want his penis to stroke me. I will hold his hips, set up a rhythm, then he’ll take that rhythm and stroke and own it, leaving me free to stop holding the pace and surrender into the feeling.
Sometimes, yes, I want to meet his stroke with my pelvis, but most of the time, relaxing and receiving puts me deeper into my feeling and sensation.
Before we started our Expanded Orgasm practice, intercourse was just OK to me. I didn’t LOVE it. It was nice, but I would have to have clitoral stimulation, preferably with a vibrator, to have an orgasm. And honestly, the penis in me was actually distracting to my orgasm.
After we learned all the sweet spots inside my vagina through the touch and manual stimulation of Expanded Orgasm and G-Area ejaculation stroking, my pussy flowered and opened and the sensitivity was a thousandfold.
We’ve also learned that it’s not even worth it to have intercourse unless I’ve been “warmed up” (engorged) first. Which is best done with a DO date. (Deliberate Orgasm = Expanded Orgasm. Same thing, two different ways to say it.)
Combine that with what I call a “conscious cock” – that my husband now knows how to use his penis to stroke the sweet spots inside me in ways that previously he had no idea about – and now I’m having orgasms directly from intercourse, no vibrator required.
Me having orgasms from intercourse is a huge breakthrough, massively increasing the quality our lovemaking experience.
I owe it all to our Expanded Orgasm practice. Without that, I would have never learned how to be so multi-orgasmic. I would have never learned how to enjoy such a wide variety of sensations. I would have never had my genitals engorged so slowly and beautifully, puffing up to silky pillows of sensational tissue that loves to be stroked, now by and penis and fingers.
But here’s what I’m working out. What I’m noticing. And I would REALLY APPRECIATE your comments and personal insights in response. (please post in blog comment section below):
I notice that when hubby and I are having intercourse, and he’s inside me, he’s now stroking pretty deeply and with a solid rhythm. I like this a lot and it raises my turn on and makes me come, but it’s that kind of coming that is more like “oh my god, oh my god,” and the sensation is almost too much, and I am whimpering a little from it.
It’s a different orgasm than the kind of feeling I get from clitoral stroking in our Expanded Orgasm practice or while ejaculating from G-Spot blended orgasms. Those are “easier” orgasms to have. The intercourse orgasms are almost overwhelming and more on the out-of-control side of coming. They are less in the sweet, delicious, melting release category.
I know I need to breathe. That’s for darn sure. And I’ll try that next.
But my question is, how can I get more of the melting feeling from intercourse orgasms? There’s an edge to them right now that I’m enjoying but it’s also a little overpowering.
Did I give you enough detail to go on? Enough description?
Are you on this path and have you traveled beyond where I am now? Can you shed some light onto the next steps in my journey?
Some women and their men are really good at intercourse. I know you can give me some advice about where to go from here, what to try.
For example, one of the things Dr. Patti taught me was to appreciate every stroke of a finger on my clit, to spread that sensation and enjoy all of it.
Something Tallulah taught me was to open my pussy like a flower, rather than crunch it down to have a clitoral-style orgasm. By opening, pushing out, I could ejaculate.
The stroke appreciation and the opening were two strategies that brought me a tremendous amount of new pleasure.
Is there a similar concept for intercourse that will make it better for me?
I like the rather hard pounding fucking, for the first time in my life. I get it. I get why women want this. I want it. And I’m coming from it. But it’s feeling a little edgy for me.
I look forward to any insights you can provide in the comment section below. And of course, I’ll keep you apprised of my evolution!