Hi Susan,
OK, convince me about Revive Her Drive, because I just don’t know…
-Oral sex (Me on her) just plain stopped because “It makes the orgasm go away,” so don’t do it.
-Oral sex (Her on me) hasn’t happened in 6 months, but with no real explanation why.
-Intercourse has become a rare thing…every 6 – 8 weeks or so, because “It just doesn’t work anymore.”
Menopause is part of the reason….
Dryness, etc. but she just won’t admit/discuss the situation…
Mike
Hi Mike,
I just finished an fantastic interview with Dr. Deborah Metzger that will be going into the members area of Revive Her Drive shortly. It’s all about the easy solutions to sexual issues that arise during menopause.
I suggest you go with your wife to a gynecologist that has training in endocrinology, if possible. That’s a hormone doctor, and your wife will likely respond well to HRT (hormone replacement therapy) and she may also require a topical hormone creme with estradiol or progesterone in it – through trial and error she can find out what works best with her particular chemistry. This issue is EASY to fix and the interview with Dr. Deb is full of ideas for increasing her libido.
Secondly, and I know this sounds self-serving, but Bob, you should buy Revive Her Drive to get this figured out.
This is exactly WHY I created the program, to give guys a step-by-step process to figure out why her interest in having sex with you is declining.
There’s no way I can give you the answer you want in this blog post – because you have to do the detective work that’s outlined in the program. Stop try to guess! You’ll only be wrong and waste precious time trying to fix what’s not broken and missing the opportunity to be laser focused on remedies that will get your sassy gal back in your arms.
The Four Elements of Revival show you how to get underneath what she’s saying or doing to overcome her resistance, fix issues like low libido, romance and sensually turn her back on and seduce her all over again.
She’s likely bored with sex with you and would rather not bother. The oral isn’t getting her off, obviously. So there’s some oral skill and techniques you can learn while you’re reawakening her sexual interest in you through the methods outlined in the program. She’s not going to tell you she’s bored, but she is telling you she’s not getting off.
It took years for you to get into this situation and it will take you some time to reverse it. But it IS reversible in all but the most difficult cases, of which I doubt yours is, believe me. You situation sounds extremely typical. I know you probably don’t like hearing that, but it’s likely true and REVERSIBLE!
You gotta work the plan, man.
Try it. You have EVERYTHING to lose if you don’t.
And as you get into it, I will help you figure out what to do, as will all the guys in the forum who are there helping each other.
I know this will work for you because it’s working for thousands of guys now who send me success emails and progress updates every day.
Get on the path to reconnection. And let me know how you do.
With love,
Susan Bratton
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My wife and I are pretty open about talking about all of it but she wants to blame everything on her Diabetis we talked for a bit about her being Engorged so she’s more sensative but she doesn’t want to talk that much about sex , foreplay or any of it, she blames all of it on her diabetis.
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We had sex nearly every night. I will massage from her legs to up to the her backs. Normally its about three quarter of hours to massages. Then i will go in between the legs. As soon she is wet, i will pull her to the egde of the bed, legs up on my chest, then i go inside. Normally its takes half an hour to complete before we washed. Or i will on oral the next days. Even she is on mempouse, she is wet.
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Susan,
My wife and I went through this same mess and hormone treatments did not help. What worked for us was for her to use a long lasting vaginal moisturizer like Replens before sex and she went on the her solution pill and I would use her solution gel on her clit and g-spot during sex. For fore play I give her a full body massage while she listens to meditation music and then I go to work on her clit and labia until they are fully engorged and she has her first orgasm. Then I utilize my fingers on her g-spot and vary stimulating her clit at the same time with my fingers, tongue, or a vibrator until she has multiple full body orgasms or squirting orgasms. Then it is my turn to receive oral stimulation (blow job) from her in a side lying position while I continue to stimulate her clit with my fingers and the g-spot. It is my understanding that when she takes me into her throat she is also stimulating herself. Prior to my ejaculation we will switch to what we call the bronco position where she is on top of me with her feet under my shoulder pits and her hands back on my knees. This allows me to pull her toward me by pulling on her thighs and for her to slide back and forth on me enjoying the full length of my penis. We have also found that at our ages (60s) it is much easier for her to be on her back and legs up at the side of the bed and for me to be standing when thrusting. From this standing position we can position her legs in any number of positions from V, extended to left or right, crossed, knees to chest or have her side lying and enter from a slight dogging position and even rotate her to doggie and around the world. It is know an enjoyable time for both of us after going through the mess. We are even sleeping in the nude again after twenty years so if one of us wakes up and gets in the mood we can have at it.
Hi Robert, sounds like you & your wife have things figured out. Im guessing you went thru a lot to get where u r today – congratulations. In trying to envision the positions you mentioned, especially when shes on top leaned bk on your knees, I wish I had more details. Thanks for sharing what u did so far. It is good to kno even at an older age there is hope for us all. 🙂
No sex for s-8 weeks? Lucky man. Try no sex of any kind for 4 years! Have tried ‘Revive Her Drive’, and she gets mad when I try anything.
I have all but given up.
Hi Peter,
I see you posting your frustrations often on our blogs. I appreciate that you have tried Revive Her Drive. Sometimes couples need more than self-help. Would you like to talk to one of our coaches? It could be very helpful to you.
Warmly,
Susan
TOO OLD
I’m with the same woman for 35years,sex is better than when we were living together,she comes to my place for weekends,but. She has to watch the grandkids for our daughter weekdays,point we raised our daughter, now it’s her turn!!!IT’S TO LONG TO EXPLAIN . rcapasso
He who spends too much time in the DOG house
Will soon find himself in the CAT house.
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