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How To Hug Her Before Lovemaking

Your “Foreplay Hug” exposition, which by nature should be obvious, makes the most sense in the world, and melds perfectly with what I think/feel “love making,” – rather than sex, is all about.
Pity that you weren’t around when I was younger to help guide me to these pinnacles of true, lasting love and ecstasy!
Good work, and thank you for the humanity that you put into it.  – Andy

Erotic Technique For Anxious Lovers

A really good way to begin a lovemaking session is with a hug.

GROUND TOGETHER WITH HUGS

It takes a while to “land” in your body after the stresses of the day.

Wrap yourselves in each other’s arms, entwine your legs and let her nestle her head in your neck.

Start breathing slowly and deeply and aligning your breath.

Try to quiet your mind from distractions of the outside world and begin to become aware of your body.

As frustrations, upsets or tensions arise, let them dissipate.

Bring your awareness first to the room, then to your partner and finally to your own body.

Begin to feel your heartbeat. Allow yourself to feel held, cared for, and nurtured by your lover.

Sometimes it can take 10-15 minutes of slowing down to begin to feel desire for each other.

Allow yourself that time just to “drop in” together.

As you quiet, look in each other’s eyes and really see your lover.

Take this moment to thank your lover for being intimate with you.

Think about what kind of lovemaking you’re in the mood for.

What is it that would feel the best for you today?

Would you enjoy starting with a full body massage?

Is there a kink in your neck or your toe that is going to prevent you from being fully surrendered to your passion?

Work it out.

Would you like a sensual massage with warm coconut oil?

Would you like your genitals stroked and engorged?

How about a slow, easy kissing session to get your pucker primed for oral sex?

Every day is a different situation. Make sure you check in with yourself and let your lover know where you are emotionally and physically.

And give yourselves time to warm up to each other.

Sometimes in the rush to “have sex,” we forget that it’s a nurturing, healing, rebooting of our nervous systems.

Give yourself permission to receive as well as give.

Meeting each other first in a loving embrace — pulsating your bodies together — will ground you back to the earth.

Let go of the cares of the world and become completely present with each other.

And then you can shoot for the stars.

Here is my recipe for The Best Hug In The World. I suggest you try this lying down.

The BEST HUG In The World <=== Easy and Fun

“I’ve always regretted that he takes my relaxation as a cue to end the hug. You ladies talk about polarity between masculine and feminine — holding hard is masculine; I’d like to be able to relax into letting go of my arms’ grip while still being strongly held by him. That would be delicious. It is rare.” — Jeanne

 

8 Responses

  1. It’s much like a business deal… to get what you want, you must first give the prospect what they want and need. Give to get. Most men just take with little thought for the needs of their women. Nurture and treat her like a lover and not a prostitute if you want your relationship to grow and succeed. If you don’t, don’t be surprised if she goes elsewhere. The only reason go elsewhere is that one or both parties are not getting what they need at home. If you can get it (It might be out of print) read a a gem of a book called ‘Sex Manners For Men’. I read this book 40 years ago and it changed my love life dramatically.

  2. Has any guy here how to give a woman a heart hug? It is a very very special hug. It truly relaxes you both and you become connected with one another.
    1st: look into her eyes and ask her if she’s ever received one? Then here’s how to do it.
    Have your legs spread apart, standing. Your left leg should be in centre line of her body. Move in and place your left arm around with your hand placed on her lower back.
    Your right arm goes underneath her left arm with your hand placed upon her upper back close to her right shoulder blade.
    Then place your left chest and connect it with hers. Hug softly and firmly so she knows you really mean it and it shows you really care.
    The idea of it is to connect two hearts as one. Notice her reaction and breathing. To test if she is enjoying it slightly pull away. If she doesn’t want to let go. You know you’re doing it right. The hug should last a minim of at least one minute if not more until you both feel refreshed from exchanging such a hug. Share it with someone you are really into. It works. It may take a few attempts to get it right for you? But heck! Who wouldn’t want a wam embrace.

  3. Thanx a heap man, the hugging bit of the whole session drives away all the fears and brings both lovers’ mind together

    1. Yaah man; ladies really have different moods at different times and each calls for a different approach to tune them to sexual desires!

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