How To Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety

“He is avoiding sex.”

Here is a letter from Coco, who suspects her boyfriend is avoiding sex. She wants to revive his drive.

Hi Susan,

I want sex more often than my boyfriend.

He already turns me on thinking about him and I know he is turned on by me.

He is 52 and I am 37 and he is not as hard as he used to be.

I think he’s worried about not staying hard or climaxing too quickly.

When he has a hard good erection he wants to have sex and it’s over pretty quickly because I think he’s worried he will lose it.

Lately I think he’s avoiding sex and is happier with less often because it saves him the stress of performing.

This is really hurting us. I want more intimacy and grow sexually and he’s not with me.

I got Dr. Patti’s Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program and we got lost and overwhelmed. I just got Tallulah’s squirt program -Female Liquid Orgasm -and haven’t even told him.

I feel like need revive HIS drive! What do we do?

Thank you so much,
Coco

Susan Bratton, CEO Personal Life Media

MY ADVICE

Hi Coco,

The woman wanting more sex than the man is more common than you might think. Lack of libido comes from lack of health – physical, emotional or both. If he hasn’t suffered from abuse or shame and he has no overt emotional depression or mood spectrum disorders, then find out if he’s ill in any way. Illness can destroy a man’s vitality. If there is no specific illness then it’s likely waning health which is fun and easy to reverse.

At 52 there is no reason your BF should be having erectile dysfunction unless he is not eating healthy and not exercising or he is emotionally upset or depressed.

Take him to an endocrinologist and get a blood panel work up. Have his Testosterone levels checked. Consider T supplementation, but above all, make sure he eats well and increases his Testosterone naturally.

The best eating program to follow for men’s erectile and general health is outlined in our Huge Load Super Pack. Yes, the recipe for this morning smoothie will likely increase his semen volume, but it’s not for that reason I recommend it. That Supercharged eating formula will not only help with his erections, it will help your BF gain muscle strength and overall good health. Get him lifting weights. Strength training will definitely help his erectile health. Take him for walks or hikes a couple times a week. He needs cardio and strength for continued erectile function. Click link below to know more about Adam Armstrong’s Huge Load Super Pack.

Getting the Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program was a great idea. If he can’t give you enough orgasms from intercourse, Expanded Orgasm will more than satisfy you. More on that below. With Expanded Orgasm, he can give you a bunch of orgasms before you have intercourse so even if he doesn’t last as long at first, you will still feel more satisfied. That will take the pressure off of him.

Another suggestion is to orally pleasure him in the beginning of your date so that he can get some skill at getting hard, going soft and getting hard again. Many guys find it easier to last if they are slowly brought to hardness slowly with their lover’s mouth. The Blow Job Secret (only $7) by Sloane Fox will give you tons of great techniques and knowledge for going down on your BF.

You can also try just having him come as quickly as he feels he’s ready and then have him give you some Expanded Orgasm orgasms and then give him oral, get him hard again and then have intercourse. For some guys, it’s easier to last longer the second erection of the date.

Play around with that and see what works for you two. But DEFINITELY talk to him about all this and help him through it.

If you got lost or overwhelmed with the Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program it’s likely that you were trying to do too much at once. That’s why Dr. Patti broke it down into 21 Erotic Play Dates. Just do one play date at a time. Don’t try to jump in and have Expanded Orgasms before experiencing the various exercises that lay the groundwork for doing this extremely advanced kind of sexual rapture.

Begin again, start at the first date and work your way up. More advanced sexual experiences come with practice and patience, like any skill that’s worth effort. Plus doing these erotic dates is HOT! It will take the pressure off of him to perform and he will love having you lying there coming like crazy for him.

Now you say that you’ve abandoned Expand Her Orgasm Tonight and purchased Female Liquid Orgasm. You are trying to fix a wound with a chainsaw. This is what a lot of men do. You are the first woman I’ve talked to who is trying to see if more new techniques will “fix” an unsatisfying sex life. They won’t.

Though I suggest you watch all the videos in Female Liquid Orgasm so you have a mental path to where you can go together, try to focus on getting your foundation together solid first.

Have a loving talk about what’s going on with him. Listen. Give him time to talk. Don’t assume you have any idea what’s going on with him. Ask and listen. Be his friend and lover.

Then go back to Expand Her Orgasm Tonight and start there. You can add in FLO at any time, of course. But put some attention on helping him get his erectile health in order.

I am also a fan of Viagra as a stepping stone before the effects of the Huge Load Super Pack, Testosterone supplementation if he wants it, and especially the strength training and cardio kick in. Have him put 1/4 tab under his tongue just before you’re ready to make love but after he’s giving you Expanded Orgasms. (it’s bitter, so have some juice handy) That way you and he will be turned on and ready to have intercourse.

Let me know how these things work for you.

Good for you for being turned on by your man!

Here are those links again for you to click now and check out:

• Expand Her Orgasm Tonight
• Female Liquid Orgasm
• Huge Load Super Pack

The best thing you have going for you is that you are a seeker of solutions. Keep it going, Coco!