“A failure of experience.” —Ray Kurzweil
The future of sex.
What IF, you gave yourself permission to be refused, to be an ethical slut, to keep trying new ways of creating fun and pleasure sexually?
The May issue of Playboy had a good article on Ray Kurzweil, the director of engineering at Google.
(Have you seen the new Playboy redesign? LOVE IT!)
Ray Kurzweil, the director of engineering at Google
Calling him, “the prophet for our digital age,” he was asked about the future of sex and among other things said this.
“We have already to some extent separated the biological function of sex from it’s communication, sensual and recreational purposes. You can certainly have sex without having babies, and you can even have babies without having sex. In virtual relations we will have even more freedom to experiment.
We already have more lines to draw today than we did in the past.
Is watching pornography infidelity?
Some people think yes; some people think no.
If you get tired of your partner, you can turn your partner into someone else, or you can transform yourself. You’ll have that option as well.” —Ray Kurzweil, Playboy May 2016
TAKE MORE RISKS
Transforming oneself takes the notion of role play to a whole new level…
But that wasn’t the part of the interview I wanted to talk to you about. It was this little bit about the start up culture in Silicon Valley, where I was an executive for twenty years in the Internet publishing industry.
He talked about the benefits of “failing fast.”
Entrepreneurs with failed start ups are not vilified in the Silicon Valley. They are “earning their stripes.” There’s a accepted convention that Ray calls, “the freedom to fail.” “Here we call it failure of experience.”
Coming from the high tech perspective and then becoming a sex expert really calls to attention how little people allow themselves to “fail” in their sexuality.
- You don’t ask enough people out.
- You cling to the first acceptable person you date instead of dating around and for longer periods of time.
- You don’t have sex with enough people to experience a wide variety of turn ons that could fuel your own desires.
- You don’t try enough new sex stuff once you are in a monogamous relationship.
What IF, you gave yourself permission to be refused, to be an ethical slut, to keep trying new ways of creating fun and pleasure sexually?
And what if you got rejected?
Who cares.
What if you had a bad experience sleeping with someone. It was a yuck instead of a yum?
What if you and your partner tried something and chalked it up to experience?
Face your fears.
They are holding you back.
This week I want you to give yourself the gift of stretching to a new relationship or sexuality goal.
Masturbate with a toy.
Try playing with your ass.
Walk up and ask a hottie out for a date.
What ever YOU need to do to face your fears, do it.
You most likely will NOT have a “failure of experience.”
Instead you’ll have a fun new experience!
And write me back with how it goes.