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Eye Gazing Lovemaking Technique

Eye Gazing Lovemaking Technique

What Is “Sexual Energy?”

How do you create MORE sexual energy?

If you’ve ever wondered what people mean when they use the word “energy” in the context of passionate sex, you’re not alone.

It’s an elusive term that may be unfamiliar, even confusing… and not just for men.

You don’t need to study tantra or start practicing qigong for sexual energy to become tangible.

All you have to do is “act as if” and start to play with it, then sexual energy will show itself to you.

Once that elusive energy becomes more real, you will be able to deepen your physical, emotional and spiritual connection to your own body and, ultimately, connect more deeply with your partner.

HIGH WITH PLEASURE

A simple way to identify sexual energy is by becoming aware of the sensation of arousal that you call getting “turned-on.”

You know it as a choir of responses that start to sing as your pleasure circuits start humming with anticipation of more pleasure.

At a physiological level, your body and mind begin to phase-shift.

Your breath, your heart rate, your focus of attention, your sense of time & space, self & other —all shift and change as your sexual energy starts to build and move through you.

These changes can be subtle or not-so subtle.

You may find yourself panting quickly one moment and breathing deeply the next.

You might feel your temperature rising, your skin becoming more sensitive and alive, your body writhing, your spine arching and your hips grinding.

Your heartbeat may quicken or slow down–all these shifts are indications that your sexual energy is moving.

Those familiar with the ebbs and flows of this energy, it’s easy to get swept away (for a man, this can lead to premature ejaculation) or washed up on the beach by the strong waves (for a woman, this can mean an inability to orgasm).

If you’re having good sex, you likely discovered your natural ability to allow the sexual energy to build into a swell, ride it for awhile, then ride the wave of pleasure over the crest into orgasm.

You may do this consciously with some measure of awareness, but even those who are unaware of what’s happening are, in effect, playing with sexual energy.

For those who are familiar with this energy, consciously cultivate it, and learn to work with the currents, playing with sexual energy becomes an intentional, self-directed process with infinite reward.

But let’s step back a minute and look at sexual energy in a larger context.

We know that everything is made of energy–at both the macro-cosmic and microcosmic level.

Every cell in your body is an energy production facility with tiny organelles called mitochondria and ATP molecules running through the Krebs Cycle to keep us alive, breathing, moving, thinking, loving and, of course, sexing.

We can readily measure the body’s energy in the form of light, sound, heat, electromagnetic and gravitational fields.

We are surrounded by electromagnetic fields, and we generate our own bio-electromagnetic field. This field around the body is often called the aura, chi field, or simply, the subtle body.

Cyndi Dale, author of The Subtle Body says that there are hundreds, if not thousands of subtle energy fields. She identifies the primary fields as:

  • Auric field
  • Morphological field
  • T-field (thought fields)
  • L-field (subtle electrical field)
  • Universal Field
  • Geofields
  • The Universal Light Field (called the “zero-point field” which consists of photons that regulate every living thing)

Taoists identify seven energy bodies: physical, chi, mental, emotional, psychic, karmic, essence, and the Tao.

By now, you’re probably wondering what all this esotericism has to do with better sex. So let’s bring it back around.

My friend and business partner, Jim Benson likes to use the metaphor of tuning forks to explain orgasmic or sexual energy.

If you tap a tuning fork and hold it next to another tuning fork, the second fork will begin to reverberate at the same frequency as the first.

This is what happens when a man or woman picks up on their partner’s sexual energy and gets turned-on as a result.

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TUNING FORK CLIMAX

Said simply, sexual energy is your essential life force, a natural resource of the body that becomes highly charged by feelings of pleasure and arousal.

This charged up energy allows you to connect more deeply and become more attuned to your lover.

With skill and practice, you can actually super-charge this sexual energy.

Learning to tune-into and play with sexual energy is really quite simple.

You need only become more intimate with your own breath and your five senses, particularly your sense of touch.

I recommend you develop this greater intimacy with yourself first, then you can bring that heightened awareness to your partner.

When two people decide to consciously play with sexual energy, it’s best to begin with a practice called eye-gazing.

  • Start by looking into each other’s eyes with a soft gaze.
  • Let go of your thoughts as much as possible.
  • Let go, too, of the assumptions you’ve made about the person in front of you. Become curious about who they are beyond what you already know.
  • Now bring your attention back to yourself and notice how you feel physically, emotionally, and mentally.
  • If you’re a spiritual person, tune into how eye-gazing affects you at that level. As the saying goes, the eyes are the window to the soul. What do you see through that window?
  • If you’re not a spiritual person, just feel into your heart as you gaze into your lover’s eyes. It has also been said that the heart is the doorway to the infinite. Whatever works for you is just perfect.
  • Now bringing your awareness back to your lover. Do you feel more connected to them?
  • You can take this practice to the next level by shifting the focus, going back and forth from attention on yourself to attention on your partner as you breathe in and out.
  • When you’re ready, add the element of touch by reaching out and taking your lovers hands or placing your hand on their heart. You might also climb into your partner’s lap and sit in what is called the yab-yum position, facing each other. Synchronize your breaths in this position and feel that changes in your sexual energy.
  • You can expand your repertoire of sexual-energy play in  ways that don’t directly involve lovemaking but add to the build up of the energy. The best way to do this is to focus on your five senses. Use aromatic oils. Play soft music. Massage each other. Bring a beautiful bouquet of flowers into the room.
  • Get creative and find ways to delight all of your senses. The sexual energy will build and, before you know it, you’ll be kissing and caressing each other.
  • Once you start making love, breathe deeply together and intentionally spread the sexual energy through your body.
  • Draw the energy up from your loins to your heart and head.
  • When you touch your lover, imagine you can direct your desire down through your fingers and into your partner. Play with that energy.
  • For the men, be attentive when you are inside her. See if you can send your sexual energy down through your penis and into her body. Focus more on feeling her than pushing in and out of her.
  • For the women, allow yourself to open and receive his energy. See if you can allow it to flow through your vagina and into your body like a river, then allow it to flow back into his body.
  • Once the energy starts to reveal itself, you can experiment with more advanced practices.

One of my favorite teachers, Dr. Patti Taylor, taught my husband and me simple techniques on how to build sexual energy and deepen our connection that eventually lead to expanded orgasms.

One of the most basic of these stroke techniques is called an intentional down-stroke.

You use your energy to calm your partner’s sexual energy so she doesn’t climax too fast.

With Expanded Orgasms you use a series of clitoral strokes to link orgasms together and stack them into increasing peaks of pleasure.

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Just as in physics, what goes up must come down. If you drive a woman too fast with sexual energy, she can tire out.

But if you bring her up, give her a little stimulation break, then take her up again, you stair-step her nervous system so each orgasm feels better than the next.

Experienced strokers (givers of the Expanded Orgasm stroking techniques) can look like they’re doing the same simple, light clitoral stroke over and over —even though energetically they are sending more energy alternately with less energy through their fingertips.

Women who have and Expanded Orgasm practice with their lovers become very tuned in to the circulating sexual energy with their partner during an orgasmic genital massage session.

The 21 Erotic Play dates inside the Expand Her Orgasm Tonight program teach couples how to spiral their sexual and subtle energy systems up together like a DNA double-helix.

With practice, you can expand the length of her climax and string multiple orgasms together so she can come for up to an hour. It’s a pretty amazing practice.

Learning to play in this way can allow a couple to channel sexual energy into their bodies and, ultimately, connect with Source, Spirit, God, Universal Light–whatever you want to call it.

You and your lover can then touch the ONENESS that precedes and infuses all things, which will light up your relationship with a breathtaking and beautiful sense of connection.

Play With Sexy Energy.

Susan Bratton is a trusted hot sex advisor to millions of couples. Get her free report, “What IS Expanded Orgasm?” Or watch, “The Tuning Fork Technique” for unlimited sexual stamina.

One Comment

  1. i love this explanation of the energy fields! i never saw them broken down like this! thank you!

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