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“It hurts to have sex…”

“I wanted to have intercourse with him, and it was a flop. The opening will take an inch or two, and then sharp pain happens. I’m so unhappy about this, as he is a younger man with a gorgeous (perhaps too big?) penis, and I feel like an old lady.”

Sexual pleasure is something most people crave. 

I say most people because a few connect sex with trauma, shame, and for some… pain.

A reader of mine sent me an email about how painful sex is for her. I can feel her sadness from her email and emotional thinking about other women like her who cannot so easily experience sexual pleasure like most of the world.

Check out her email and my response and suggestions in the article. 

EMOTION IN MOTION 

“Hi, Susan,

I’m a woman in my 60s who has been taking 10mg estradiol vaginally for over ten years. I haven’t had much sex in the last four years and finally got the chance this week.

To my horror, although excited to be with this man, it hurt when he put his penis in. Truthfully, I noticed the same when I used an enormous dildo, but I figured it was because I was alien and not stimulated, and he was wider, still. I got out the lube, but that didn’t work. I had recently been to the gynecologist, and when I noticed the speculum hurt a little, I asked her if it was too tight in there, and she said there was plenty of room.

The opening will take an inch or two, and then sharp pain happens. I’m so unhappy about this, as he is a younger man with a gorgeous (perhaps too big?) penis, and I feel like an old lady. I just watched your video on lube and realized I’d been using a silicone one. I will get the new FORIA you recommend. But question: I have the food-grade spray – maybe I’ll try that? Spraying in?

I’m so sad about this. It’s the first man I’ve looked forward to being with in years. He went down on me, and it was too hard and fast, but I know I first pleasured him manually and orally, really nicely, for a long time. I thought I was ready.

Any suggestions?

Warmly,

Kimberly (not her real name).”

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HOW TO AVOID PAINFUL SEX

Hi Kimberly,

Thank you for asking me about all of this. These are prevalent issues that most women face. I feel for you, but don’t worry! You can remediate your vagina. The atrophy can be reversed pretty quickly. And it’s an ongoing thing to maintain your vagina for sex in your sixties, but completely doable!

There are several things you can do simultaneously. They are synergistic and fix various aspects of atrophy.

Consider upping your dose of intravaginal estradiol. Talk to your gyno about testing estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels. You need more of all three at your age. They are synergistic, heart and neuroprotective, and reverse the thinning vulva and vaginal tissue, increasing lubrication.

Next, get a series of GainsWAVE for Her treatments. This is an acoustic wave technology that a trained practitioner applies. It will rejuvenate both the outside and inside of your entire genital system. My lubrication is off the charts now! And my orgasm response is better than it’s ever been.

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Men often go too fast and are too rough. He just needs to know how you like things done. 

You got this!

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2 Responses

  1. Over the past few years, it seems my wife has become hyper-sensitive to my semen. It burns and can cause her a yeast infection and/or a bladder infection. She had a full hysterectomy about 10 yrs ago. Could this be related to that? Thank you in advance.

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