I was talking to a close friend yesterday about going out together in Vegas with a small group of tight friends. I asked him what he likes to do when he goes to Vegas. “Do you want to got to a restaurant? Gamble? Go to a show? Go clubbing?”
He said, sheepishly, “I just like to stay home and fuck.”
Hmmmm… I said. Yeah, I can relate. Seems like one can never get enough time for those 2 or 3 hour long, luxurious lovemaking sessions with a partner who is turned on, and wants warm up slowly and go on and on and on.
But it IS Vegas, for goodness sake, so let’s go out!
If you want to have sensual pleasure as much as you can, but it seems like you never get quite enough, I have a life-altering insight for you.
Life altering insight?
I know what you’re thinking… “That’s a bold statement, Sloane!”
If you want to have more delicious sex more often, here are Four Keys to Seduction, from Dr. Patti’s new Seduction Trilogy.
- Seduce Her Tonight: Sex Life Strategies for Getting to Yes
- Seduction Accelerator: The Most Turn-On and Hottest Sex
- Her Sexual Trainer: Unlock Her Most Intense Sensual Responses
If you’re a man, learn these. If you’re a woman, teach your man these.
I promise this will literally transform the quality and quantity of sex you experience.
Everyone can increase their seductive powers, creating more sensual opportunities, by learning a few basic tenets of arousal and these Four Keys to Seduction.
The Four Keys are:
1) String of Yeses
2) Erotic Vigilance
3) Vulnerability
4) Vision
There are a LOT of detailed explanations, examples, foundation information and techniques in these books, this is just a highlight.
I’m approaching this review and information from the man’s perspective. Men, if you want to be a sexual genius, a master lover, you must provide the leadership. You cannot wait for her to instigate sex. It’s your job.
And if your success rate is low. You make offers and they get refused. Here’s how to create a String of Yeses that get you the great sex you and she both crave.
Key #1: String of Yeses—Make offers you sense she’ll want to say yes to
Key #2: Erotic Vigilance—Awareness, noticing and acknowledgment
First, make Small Offers. Dr. Patti teaches you how to “right-size” the offers you make so your woman can easily be a “yes.”
She teaches you Erotic Vigilance, which means noticing your woman’s physical and emotional state so that the offers you make are appropriate and not too large.
You learn the subtleties of biofeedback, so you can further tune into your woman and what, in that moment, you can offer her that she’d receive positively.
And you learn how to “run menus” with options both “in category” and “across categories.”
Women love attention and variety and FUN.
You can learn to run menus of possible fun things to do for her or together that result in a string of yeses that you can escalate as she becomes aroused.
Dr. Patti even teaches you to take a woman who is neutral or even in a negative place, and move her to neutral and then to arousal with these small offers.
All of that and more are in Seduce Her Tonight.
The companion book, Seduction Accelerator, Dr. Patti explains the Accelerator Keys, Vulnerability and Vision.
Bottom line, guys. . .
She wants the guy who is doing the seducing—that perfect just-right guy—to tap into her true appetite and her true desires regardless of what she seems to want or even asking for. And this gets even truer when you are seducing the same woman over and over—which is exactly what you need to be doing in a long-term relationship.
Are you ready to learn how to seduce a woman on all levels of awareness? Here is the heart of what Dr. Patti teaches you, the two Advanced Accelerator Keys:
Accelerator Key #1:Vulnerability (get skilled at her dance, the peaceful warrior, be like water)
Accelerator Key #2:Vision (right timing at the right target cinches the deal)
As you blend these two skills in to your mix, you will recognize exactly where you are with your partner on the path to accelerated turn-on and how to take her to an intoxicating series of new heights. In this process you will be both appreciated and acknowledged by women as a true sexual genius.
- Read into what women are thinking, feeling, wanting, and needing.
- Master the art of making her offers that are accurately tuned to where she’s at (even if she can’t tell you).
- Manage her energy in the most efficient way, minimizing the time it takes to get to total turn-on.
- Feel confident and skilled in navigating situations where your seduction effort has started off feeling complicated, complex, or even hopeless.
- Be the deliriously happy recipient of more sexual appetite than you ever dreamed possible from the woman who matters most.
Accelerator Key #1 – Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a quality that shows her that you are connected to your feelings. It reveals that you are aware of what’s going on in your body and with your emotions, moment-to-moment; in other words, that there’s a powerful and present “you” there.
Women need to connect with their feelings and needs in order to find and locate their erotic sensations and energy. They are quite unlike men in this respect.
When you master vulnerability, you will discover how to:
- Deal with emotional issues that allow a woman to feel heard
- Understand when to listen and when to solve problems with her
- Find out exactly what she wants you to do to help her solve her problems
- Find out what she wants and needs in order to access her fountain of turn-on
- Get to be her hero, time and time again
- Become the guy she gets increasingly turned on to… tonight and every night
Accelerator Key #2 – Vision
Being aware of whether she’s on the rocks and needs some TLC, or coasting (directionless but pleasantly open minded), or already turned-on to some degree, will give you access to accurately tune your offers to smoothly lift up the erotic energy so that she can experience that all-important feeling of “being met” by you.
Responding to her where she’s at in each moment—rather than to where you would like her to be—is at the heart of that quality I call Vision. It’s a special type of awareness that translates directly into erotic leadership.
Vision is a special quality of leadership. A woman wants someone she can surrender to in the bedroom. She wants someone who can take her, possess her in the most attentive and intimate way… giving her the permission she yearns for to “let loose” and to feel and express all that sexual desire bottled-up inside.
Now if you’re going to demonstrate Vision, and you will, you’ll need to develop skills like the ability to know:
- When, how much, and how long to tease her
- When to go back into being vulnerable
- When to deal with emotional issues
- When to take her to the next level of turn-on and passion
- When to offer her a sensual massage, or a date
- When her desire changes (and, guys, it can and will!)
And just like you want to lock onto her erotic current in the bedroom, you want to lock onto her turn-on current before you get to the bedroom; staying with it, and guiding her to a place of erotic surrender, where all she wants to do is allow you to “take her” to exquisite and exotic sensual and sexual spaces.
Think of these advanced Keys—Vulnerability and Vision—as the Accelerator Keys to turning her on. Get to know them well!
Next I’ll review Her Sexual Trainer: Unlock Her Most Intense Sexual Responses.
With love,
Sloane Fox