The 6 Golden Moments When You’d Better Kiss Her

This is a guest post from my friend and nationally-recognized dating coach, Scot McKay of X & Y Communication. I’m on his email list and this, like much of his advice, is excellent. Deserve What You Want

6 Golden Kissing Opportunities

You’ve probably been conditioned your entire life to aim for that all-important first kiss with a woman when you’ve walked her to her doorstep at the end of an evening together.

Forget that.  Why save it for the very last?

Besides missing out on all the potential excitement that could have happened earlier in the night, you end up looking like every other unimaginative dork she’s dated since middle school.

That said, I fully get that making the first kiss happen at exactly the right time seems as if it’s easier said than done.

But no worries.  I’ve got your back, as always.

Here are a half-dozen moments that are tailor made first kiss opportunities just about every time:

1)    When She’s Talking Nonstop

This goes double if she’s mildly perturbed over something.  Perhaps she has started to go on about her bad day at work, her mean professor and/or an evil co-worker.

But even if she’s just turning a bit too much into a “Chatty Cathy” in general, here’s a universal truth that every man should know.

You already know that the best way to shut up a group of noisy guys is to put food in front of them.  But if you want to shut a woman up, kiss her.

And don’t be surprised afterward if she forgets what she was talking about.

The caveat here, of course, is that we’re assuming her excessive chatter hasn’t negatively affected her attractiveness to you…which I understand could be a distinct  possibility.

2)    When You Are Opening The Car Door For Her

A lot of people want to pronounce chivalry dead at the scene.

But as I’ve said in The Man’s Approach program, if you don’t bother to open the car door for a woman you’re missing out on one MASSIVE opportunity to get the first kiss out of the way.

I mean, where else can you literally corner a woman and actually have her feel safer, warmer and fuzzier as a direct result?

This is money, I tell you.

3)    When There’s Even The Briefest Of Pauses After You Lock Eyes At Close Range

The tragic part about this particular phenomenon is that EVERYONE recognizes when it’s happening.

But the problem is that far too many of us come down with a sudden outbreak of “Too Good To Be True Fever” when it happens FOR US.

Learn from the movies, gentlemen.

Admit it.  Every time you’ve ever seen a guy bonk at this point in a movie, you knew he was blowing it.  And the guy who gets the girl in that same movie NEVER misses the cue, does he?

So when you’re talking to a woman–or are even just generically present with her, frankly–and you find yourself a foot away from her staring into her eyes wordlessly as if the world were standing still…it is.

And the world is standing there screaming, “KISS HER NOW!”

4)    When Plans Change Or Certain Interruptions Take Place

Okay, this one’s a bit trickier.

What we’re referring to here is NOT when a major crisis hits or when you’ve got to act fast to correct something that’s a pressing concern.

We’re also NOT referring to when her babysitter calls telling her to “come home immediately” or when she flakes out on you.  Of course not.

What we ARE talking about is when you’re given the GOLDEN opportunity to take a slight glitch in your perfect plan and boldly show that your overall demeanor and  personal control over the whole situation are NOT affected by it.

The Notebook is not on most guys’ list of favorite movies, but there’s a certain scene in it where the guy and the gal are in a rowboat together surrounded by swans.

The “storybook” moment is rudely interrupted by a sudden torrential rainstorm.

As the woman starts fretting about the situation, the guy does the right thing.  He grabs her and kisses her brains out, turning the whole melee into the hottest five minutes either of them has ever experienced.

Nice going, there.

Your version might not be as dramatic.

Nevertheless, that locked door to a restaurant you thought was still open or even changing a flat tire in a tux probably should lead to a first kiss…provided you’re a Big Four man with a woman along who is attracted to you.

5)    Whenever She Expresses Slight Embarrassment Or Good-Natured
Regret At Having Said Something Silly

Ah yes… I love this one.

If a woman is concerned over having embarrassed herself a tiny bit in your presence or thinks she just said something silly, that’s a universal sign that she’s digging you.

What better way to reassure her when she’s experiencing such worry than to remove all doubt that she hasn’t messed up nearly as badly as she thinks?

Kiss her, already.  Make it all better.

6)    Whenever You Instinctively Sense That She’s Expecting It

This one is along the lines of the third point above, but more generally applicable.

ANY time you get the unmistakable vibe that she WANTS to be kissed, you not only SHOULD kiss her you’d BETTER kiss her.

I mean, how many hints does a chick have to drop, dude?  Start getting them.  Otherwise, she’s going to think you’re a total wimp.

The bottom line here is that most women LOVE to be kissed and they

WANT to be kissed by a man they like.

When you are on a first date with a woman and she appears to be enjoying herself, you could probably kiss her without much drama and with great success.

If you’re on a second date with her, you can consider that a foregone conclusion.  She wouldn’t BE THERE if she wasn’t feeling attraction.

Knowing that, remember the six golden moments I’ve described for you today and you’ll never be at a loss for gauging the RIGHT TIME for that first kiss to happen ever again.

Scot McKay

Just for laughs, here’s how NOT to get the first kiss.

Horrified Man Looks On Powerlessly As He Ruins Date | The Onion

Very funny stuff…enjoy.

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