Tom asked, “your plan & program is for couples living together. I’m a little different. I’m
in Love with my GF who does not like sex or any thing related resemble romance, she just shuts down in side & I’m going out of state for my job. How will work for me…
My Reply: There is no good answer for this without knowing more, but I’ll give you some options to consider.
First of all, the 4 Elements of Revival work for girlfriends and wives both. Revive Her Drive teaches a man how to romance and seduce his woman, especially a woman who is resistant to sexuality.
So yes, Revive Her Drive is exactly the right product for your situation because you can begin to explore with her why you think or why she thinks that she doesn’t like sex. And why she thinks she doesn’t like romance.
The two sections called “Overcoming Resistance” and “Sexual Sticking Points” within Revive Her Drive could be very, very powerful help for both of you .
Was she abused? Has she been raised in a repressed home, been repressed by religion, her culture? Had she had a bad sexual experience? Does she have issues about her body or shame? What are her reasons for “not liking sex or romance?”
First you have to get underneath what is causing her to be off the norm. Because, naturally, humans enjoy their bodies and sexuality and romance.
So something is occurring with her that you have to find out about if you are going to want to have sex with her.
The second question to ponder is, since she’s your girlfriend, and you are moving away right now for your job, and she seems against sex and romance, do you want to get involved in the long term with a woman who has issues around her sexuality? A woman who may be emotionally problematic.
If you have a chance to choose your mate, is she truly the best choice for you?
If you cannot turn her around, can you be her mate without sex and romance? Are you willing to make that trade off for other things you want in your relationship with her?
That’s a lot to ask of yourself. To shut yourself down if you cannot turn her around, or even to take on the task of helping her. Are you absolutely sure you have the skill, desire and patience to deal with this?
It’s your call.
If you want to try talking her through all of this via phone while you’re away on business, and she’s willing, you should start right now. Don’t let another day go by without addressing your needs and hers and how they are going to fit together going forward in your relationship.
And if she needs professional support, help her get some. Try the AASECT.org site for a therapist in her area.
Hope that helps.
The whole section of “Overcoming Resistance” and “Sexual Sticking Points” within Revive Her Drive could be very, very powerful help for you and worth the price of the whole program just to get that knowledge to start with.
Let me know and good luck to you.
With Love,
Susan Bratton