This could have been the perfect hug.
It’s a sweet moment in time on the train tracks.
It’s a beautiful day.
She obviously feels close to him. Look how tight she is holding her body against his.
She has two arms thrown around his shoulders.
So why is he hugging her wrong?
Assume he’s not her “friend zone” buddy, that he is her boyfriend, lover, husband…
He had the opportunity to hold her tight, with both arms wrapped around her, securely anchoring her.
Try this with your lady.
Put your arms around her, pull her close to you — abdomen to abdomen, heart to heart — and then hold her.
Don’t let go.
Ask her to relax fully in your arms.
As she relaxes, tell her you’ve got her, and squeeze her just a little more tightly.
Keep the pressure on her completely. Don’t let go, don’t release, don’t open your arms.
Encourage her to feel you holding her. Ask her to allow herself to relax and feel held by you.
And no matter what you do, do not ease up on the sweet embrace until she asks you to.
This strong, solid, long hug may be the best she’s ever gotten.
Because here’s what happens in most hugs. The minute she relaxes, he thinks it’s a signal to let go.
Don’t let go. Just let her melt in your arms.
And as you’re holding her, think about how much you love this sassy, sweet, delicate, kick butt creature.
And fill her with love and affection.
Breathe with her.
Match her breath and then slowly deepen your breaths and “breathe her.” Set the pace of the breathing so her breath slows and deepens and your hearts beat as one.
Feel free to give her plenty of instruction before you start, so she knows you will not let go. So she knows you are encouraging her to feel really held by her man.
And let me know how you both love this exercise.