Though the Center for Disease Control says there is no proof that Lyme Disease can be sexually transmitted, LymeResearch.org reported on new research raises the possibility that it can be passed through sexual intimacy.
SAFE SEX CONVERSATION
The comments below the report are equally fascinating. You will have to decide what you believe. It’s worth asking a potential sexual partner if they have Lyme or symptoms like it.
As always, asking for a potential sexual partner’s sexual history is vital to keeping yourself healthy before getting intimate.
Sometimes called a Safe Sex Discussion, Safe Sex Conversation, or Sexual History there are important questions to ask any potential lover. Here is a list of questions to discuss before you decide to exchange any body fluids with a potential sexual partner:
When was the last time you had STD tests, which tests did you have and what were the results?
What STD’s do you have currently? Do you have or have you recently had syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, HSV (herpes – both oral which is type 1 and genital or type 2), HPV (genital warts) in addition to HIV, trichomoniasis and even scabies and other parasites? It’s worth asking about Lyme disease at this point to be fully informed as well.
How many partners have you had sex with since your last tests? What were the results of your partner’s tests?
Do you have sex with men, women or both? What kind of protection do you use and how consistently?
Have you had sex with prostitutes, do you take drugs with needles or have unprotected anal sex with homosexuals?
What boundaries do you have around sex? What is off limits for you?
Once your prospective partner answers these questions, you can get a good sense of their level of integrity, safety and whether or not there is any risk associated with contact. But be warned! In an study in Communication Quarterly, one fifth (20%) of the sexually active students intentionally misrepresented their sexual history to their sexual partners.*
Of course, you should be able to answer all these questions for your partner as well.
Responsible non-monogamy can be as safe as serial monogamy if you and your partners have these safe sex conversations, practice safe sex and keep your tests current.
And don’t forget to LOOK at your partner’s genitals and the rest of their skin too. If you read my article on herpes, you’ll know that a herpes outbreak does not only occur on the mouth or genitals. That pimple on your boyfriend’s butt could be herpes.
I know all this stuff is yucky. But you have to be an adult and get informed, get tested and have a sexual history conversation with every partner you consider.
If you want to have sex with someone and they haven’t gotten tests, then stick to mutual masturbation or at the least, just kissing and using your hands on each other.
When you put your mouth on their genitals or have genital to genital contact without current STD testing and a sexual history conversation you are putting yourself at significant risk.
You can get a lover off very well just with your hands. Start there and then get tested before proceeding further.
I love you and want you to be safe.
Spread the word about taking a sexual history and the importance of regular STD testing.
Here is a link to which tests you should get. <=== STD Testing Recommendations
Here is a Conscious Safe Sex Guide <=== Follow These Guidelines To Be Responsibly Non-Monogamous or Serially Monogamous
* Communication Quarterly, “Deception in disclosing one’s sexual history: Safe‐sex avoidance or ignorance?”