If you are having sex with someone or want to, read this.
Have you made an active choice about what kind of STD protection you’re using?
Do you have a safe sex conversation with everyone with whom you have sex?
FLUID BONDED SEX
Note: If you are regularly getting STD Tests [What STD tests to get.] and completely honest about who you have sex with and what kind of protection you use, good for you! If not, please begin learning how to do this by reading the many posts on our blog so that you become informed and tested.
So what is Fluid Bonded Sex?
It’s sex without protection: No condoms, gloves, dams. Ejaculation fluid, saliva… all bodily fluids are exchanged between consenting partners.
Sharing bodily fluids without sexual protection is a considered decision, not a default behavior. Conscious safe sex is a must in today’s dangerous world of all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases. Even with condoms, you can get all kinds of nasty diseases — so it’s not enough just to have sex with many partners and use a condom.
The wet sex that occurs in a safe, fluid bonded relationship is a healthy, human experience. Sex is good for you.
But wet sex should only occur between partners who have had a full panel of STD tests and are both in trusted agreement that there’s fidelity such that no one is at risk of giving the other an STD.
If you or your partner are of child-bearing age, then pregnancy protection has to be part of the discussion too. Don’t overlook the IUD as a safe alternative to birth control pills.
“Fluid-bonded” means you are either monogamous and agree to have unprotected sex with each other or you are in a fluid-bonded relationship with a small group of lovers (often called polyfidelity) who are only having sex with each other. Think of it as a monogamous group.
If someone wants to come into your group and have sex with you or another person, they must “screen in.” Which means they must get their STD tests and make love only within the screened group according to the rules of your group.
That way, you can have safe, unprotected wet sex together.
Keep your STD tests current – every six months is good if you are sexually active – and use condoms EVERY TIME if you are not fluid bonded. That will go a long way in preventing STDs. Nonetheless, remember that herpes, for example, can be spread even when no outbreak is present. That’s why it’s important to sleep with people who can show you the results of their tests. If you know someone has herpes, you are then informed that even if they aren’t having an outbreak, you could get it. The cases of HSV1 (oral herpes) showing up on people’s genitals is growing at a fast pace now because people think oral sex is safer. It’s not.
I don’t want to scare you away from having sex.
I just want you to be aware of and manage your risks. And the best way to do that is to be informed and regularly tested, be comfortable having the safe sex conversation with prospective partners and for unprotected sex, limiting yourself to one or a few trustworthy lovers who have screen in to a fluid bonded relationship.
Otherwise, the safest things you can do are kissing and using your hands to give each other orgasms. Hand jobs for men and Expanded Orgasm “DO Dates” for women can be incredibly erotic experiences to have before you jump into intercourse or oral sex with higher risks of STD’s.
When a woman takes the time to put her full attention on slowly getting you hard and giving you an incredible hand job, it can deepen the bond between you.
I hope you appreciate learning these new terms like, “fluid bonded.”
Let me know your questions and your thoughts.