Dear Sloane,
I too purchased The Blow Job Secret.
In 26 yrs of marriage, and 50 years old have never had a blow job in my life (or anything close).
I did everything you recommend in the book including the shaving totally bare (which I actually enjoyed perhaps just another indication I am not normal in wanting this, and rather stupid for pursuing it) and nothing.
THERE IS HOPE
Still waiting but I honestly think it is one of the bucket list items that will never get fulfilled. For some strange reason it is very hurtful that she won’t go down on me ever.
It is more than just getting sexually pleasured that I desire and crave, but it seems women just don’t get it and or unwilling to provide it, for reasons I don’t fully understand..
I crave, love and feel great going down on her and the pleasure she appears to get is amazing, complete with mini ejaculations often, doing that to her makes me feel wonderful but that degree of intimacy reciprocated is elusive to females it seems, another men are from Mars and women are from Venus example I guess.
Will
My first response:
Hi Will,
I’m wondering exactly how the conversation went when you talked to your wife about your desire for oral pleasuring?
In The Blow Job Secret it says, “Mistake #1 is assuming you know what she’s thinking.”
Did you follow my, “What to say” formula?
What beliefs are holding her back? It is understanding and then working on the lack of knowledge or limiting beliefs that will make the difference in your case.
Please advise.
Thanks,
Sloane
Then Will wrote:
Thanks for the response !!!!! Yes I tried to follow the ‘script” as closely as I could and she just really had no answer or anything much to say. Just that she doesn’t think she can.
I tried to ask specifics is it something she has been told is it gagging, is it I am not hygienic, bad experience in the past, what would I need to do to make it an attractive offer for you…
At one point (after several requests at later dates) she did agree to the three licks proposal you suggested but it has never happened.
The conversation was not heated or confrontational, just embarrassment perhaps, and really had no affects one way or the other.
Still can’t get a definitive answer as to why not, or what I could do, or what she would like to do expect just can’t.
She says she does not find that part of me unattractive but she can’t really look at it and rarely attempts touching it and it always feels like she is touching a pair of dirty socks when she does, with eyes closed. While she says that, I have to assume the opposite, because she gives me no other reason why.
Kind of settled into pleasing her and getting as much pleasure from that as I can and left the others behind because I really don’t think it will ever change, especially since I cant really find a specific reason. She totally enjoys me going down on her and I do as well so better a little than to over turn the boat I guess.
My Latest Reply to Will:
Will,
This additional information is helpful.
OK. She is willing, but totally ignorant and afraid.
You have to treat your dick as something she’s completely afraid to handle because she doesn’t know what to do.
Get it out and show it to her.
Give her a tour of your dick. Explain the anatomy and where it’s sensitive and how you stroke it when you masturbate.
Get her used to looking at it first.
Then ask her just to touch it and notice the different textures of the skin.
A few days later, when you are making love, ask her if she will just give it three little licks.
Every time she does anything with your dick, make a big deal about how she’s a natural and it feels so good and you love her for it.
Just keep doing that and slowly helping her get comfortable and confident.
MOST IMPORTANT: DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!
Keep me apprised of your progress.
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