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4-Step C.A.L.M Formula for Removing Relationship Stress

4-Step C.A.L.M Formula for Removing Relationship Stress

“I’m not in the mood tonight. Today was too stressful. Let’s just watch TV, OK?”

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STRESS is the number one reason people don’t have have more intimacy.

The great news is that intimacy actually lowers stress!

But when you’re stressed, you can’t even think about passion…. So here is a little work-around that calms you down and gets you more in the mood.

This de-stressing technique is called co-regulation.

When you co-regulate, you tweak your brain wiring and calm each other down during times when one (or both of you) are stressed out!

Co-regulation is a natural part of a secure couple’s daily life — not only in response to distress calls, but as a way to nurture their connection.

Here’s an example:

Secure couples touch often. Partners may frequently hug at departures and arrivals and check in with each other throughout the day. Even when they are apart, they feel connected.

My fellow YourTango expert Stan Catkin says, “Relationship is like a three-legged race.”

Ongoing happiness is based on both partners staying vertical and moving forward together. The basic rule is: “If you fall, then I fall.” You cannot leave one partner on the ground.

Here’s my “CALM Formula” I teach couples so they can quickly co-regulate and keep their love, intimacy, and passion for each other as strong and unbreakable as ever.


“CALM” stands for…

C – Create Safe Space
A – Attune To Each Other
L – Look In Each Other’s Eyes
M – Melting Hugs

When something happens and one of you realizes the need to use the “CALM Formula,” tell the other person about it immediately.

Then go lie down on the bed or couch and get away from the madness of daily life. Take that moment of respite together.

Slow down your heartbeats and breathe deeply together.

Look into each other’s eyes and remember that you love one another. Eyes are said to be the windows to a person’s soul.

And give each other warm, honest, and genuine connection with melting, long, luxurious hugs.

Something so simple can be so powerful during the most crushing and uncertain of times. It can quickly serve as a starting point which couples can use to stabilize their emotions.


Before I close, there is a delicate issue I’d like bring up. When my husband and I almost got divorced because our intimacy had withered, one of the things we did to respark our passion was to commit to rekindling our intimacy.

The new relationship energy had worn off and, frankly, I’d gotten less and less enthusiastic about making love as my career took off and our little girl was born.

We searched the world for educational lovemaking videos that I could stand to watch. But it all felt like pornography to me and made me feel uncomfortable. I wanted to see heart-connected, soulful couples demonstrate ways lovers could pleasure each other.

Eventually, I curated my own sweet techniques video series and called it the Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection.

I made the videos tasteful, elegant and approachable so wives and girlfriends could comfortably watch with their partners.

And this week we are having one of our rare 60% off promotional sales on the collection.

If you’ve ever wished your guy had more moves in the bedroom… Or you want to be ready for a night of passion when you find “the ONE” then I encourage you to click this link and get on the list to check out the 200 techniques in Steamy Sex Ed®.

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Every time you learn new bedroom skills, your sex life improves. Though you may have only been introduced to me recently, I’ve been a trusted hot sex advisor to millions of people around the world for over a decade.

I hope you’ll consider checking out our Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection while it’s on sale. I only press 500 copies and I always run out. So don’t delay. The sale is over on December 11th or when all the DVDs are sold out (There is also a digital-only version and we offer a 3-pay so you can stretch out the payments.)

We have a 30-day money back guarantee so you have time to watch them and see for yourself how wonderful it is to learn new ways to increase your intimacy and connection.

Best of all, these videos teach guys how to slow the heck down and really become romantic.

After this week you won’t hear about the sale anymore, but I will still send you sweet and romantic relationship techniques.

And I appreciate your trust in me. Comment below anytime with questions.

I made these videos for couples to watch together, singles to be ready for “The One”, and for those who want to have slow, sensual, extra-passionate lovemaking.

It’s the best thing to happen to REAL sex education since ever. And it’s my anti-porn remedy for passionate relationships.

You and your lover will enjoy every minute of it.

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Take a stance that treats your relationship as a three-legged race.

Secure partners know that it is in their own best interest to find mutual solutions — and to respond in a caring, helpful way when a partner is in distress.

A secure couple has no interest in who is right or who will win if there’s a difference in needs. Partners work together to arrive at a solution that works for both.

As in a three-legged race, if one person feels off balance, he or she needs to know how to reach out for help in an open, transparent way as soon as possible.

If a distressed partner needs reassurance, the other knows how to quickly respond with co-regulation or comforting verbal messages.

Secure couples STILL DO get triggered, but they have learned how to accept their triggers and quickly reassure safety or repair.

Use my C.A.L.M. Formula next time you feel like you’re too stressed to connect with your love.

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