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Janet’s sex life is monotonous, and her husband does not satisfy her. Part of the reason is that he’s not sexually confident due to his penis size.

Here’s her email and my response below:

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“Dear Susan,

My husband has a hang-up over his penis size. Size helps, but it isn’t everything. Try telling that to a man.

He’s gained weight and doesn’t feel good about himself. I feel like he’s only having sex with me when he needs a release.

I want more passion, more foreplay, and more romance. I want to be held after sex and cherished at that moment. Our sex life is monotonous, and quite often, I don’t have the energy to invest in sexual acts.

What advice can you give me? There wasn’t much discussion growing up about sexuality! You have empowered me and encouraged me to seek a solution. I love your directness and ability to drive people to better their sex lives.” – Janet (not her real name)


Dear Janet,

Thank you for coming to me with this issue. More men are ashamed of their penis size. I think this is a modern-day problem due to them watching the giant penises in porn.

But I also honor a person’s feelings about their body. You have to deal with how they feel, even if you disagree. It’s no different from a woman who thinks her breasts are too small and wants implants.

I want to address his depression, weight gain, and lack of bedroom skills. But first, let’s tackle the penis size issue.

You can support him in increasing the size of his penis in two ways. 

The first is giving him regular blow jobs where you suckle his penis the same way a baby nurses an areola and nipple. It’s a suckling (not just sucking) action that will expand his penis volume and improve erectile function.

When you’re doing this suckling, do other motions and pleasurable sensations. 

Most importantly, make sure YOU are enjoying yourself. Giving fellatio is as pleasurable as getting it. You’ll enjoy it more as you gain confidence and relax in it. You can learn to provide yourself with orgasms from fellatio! Give it a try.

The second way to increase his penis size is by using a penis pump regularly. 

Penis pumps work on the same principle as suckling. It’s called hormesis. Exercise is a classic example of hormesis – you damage your muscle fibers, and they build back bigger and stronger.

You’re doing a tiny micro-damage to his penile tissue, causing it to grow. You can incorporate this Blow and Grow technique and penis pumping into your sexual time spent together. 

The pumping system I recommend is for both length and girth. If you get involved with him on this, he will feel confident to do it instead of ashamed. And it will normalize the process for him, so he sticks with it for 90 days. 

After 13 weeks, he will look down and not even recognize himself! He’s going to be so delighted.

Here’s how you get involved. 

You don’t have to do this every time. But especially getting him started, having you there being cool and supporting him will help him.

You’d want the same level of support if you were having a boob job or whatever… so you be there for him, girl. He’s your man.

Have him relax with you. You coat his penis with the lube and put the cylinder on for him. He needs to be flaccid with pump #1. Pump him up. And while he’s letting the vacuum work for 10 minutes, you get yourself ready for lovemaking. The two-pump system I recommend is called The Whopper.

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It’s fun to see his penis get big in the first pump.

After 10 minutes, he releases the vacuum. Remove his penis. You return and give him a deep handjob for three more minutes with lube. Then with his penis erect, you put the second cylinder on him. Pump up to the correct vacuum again. Finish getting the room ready for sex. Candles. Music. Water. Towels. Your lube. Toys. Whatever you need.

You could even squat over him and have him go down on you while the pumps are on him. He can play with your breasts. You can kiss. Make it fun for him to pump! The slow, 10-minute skin and penile tissue stretching is a hands-free situation. And he needs to do it twice. So you’re looking at a half-hour every other day for 13 weeks to see results.

He can keep pumping longer than 90 days, of course. Some guys pumped for over a decade and kept seeing gains. But he can also switch to a maintenance mode of pumping a few times a month to preserve the gains he got.

At the end of the second set, he will be very engorged. At that time, you can have intercourse or continue with foreplay and oral pleasuring. There is no rush.

The only thing I’d ask you to do is have him refrain from ejaculating until at least 2 hours after pumping. The ejaculation drains the blood too fast from the penile chambers and reverses your pumping gains.

Pumping works because you’re expanding his blood-carrying capacity.

He can hold his ejaculation until the next day, masturbate later that day, or just make love the following day and let it all go.

Have him ejaculate inside you as much as possible, as his semen is excellent for your brain function, mood, and womanly cycling. If you need information on non-hormonal birth control options or all the goodies in his semen that benefit you, I have videos on my Better Lover channel. Good watching!

The pumping will make his penis bigger and improve his confidence. Trying new things like this in the bedroom will reverse the monotony you’ve felt.

And as far as his weight… cook together at night and walk together after dinner. Get 20 miles a week. That’s 3 miles per day. Put the Activity Tracker on your phone to track your progress.

Follow the Whole 30 or Longevity Diet when you cook. Both of you will lose weight and get fit and healthy, which will increase your orgasmic sensation and pleasure.

This time in your marriage can be a renaissance. Learning these skills, growing your intimacy and his penis, eating well, and getting healthy… It’s a fantastic couples project. 

There you go, Janet! This is not the last thing you two will have to overcome together. But it may be the most fun! 

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