Whenever I teach men and women about female ejaculation I make sure to emphasize that the journey, not the destination is what is most important. My mission is to educate men and women about what is possible instead of put pressure on them to be a certain way sexually. Many women feel pressure and then inadequacy when it comes to being more orgasmic or having ejaculatory orgasms.
Whenever there is a goal or expectation for men and women sexually, this takes us out of the present moment and the magic that is happening here and now and into our heads where our fears and negative mental commentary resides.
How can we surrender and simply enjoy the ride without feeling pressure or inadequacy?
-Get out of your head and into your body by remembering to breathe.
-Let negative thought patterns gently slip away as you focus your attention on the sensations in your body.
-Reassure your partner and compliment her often so the focus is on what is happening instead of what isn’t.
–Relax, experiment, explore and enjoy as you remind yourself that this is a journey and not a destination. If you release goals and expectation then you can enjoy the new things you are learning about your partner and your sexuality that you never could have expected or imagined.
-If you are experiencing some blockages or setbacks or your partner is, remind her to breathe, communicate and express fully whatever is present for her so she can get it out of the way and release it in a healthy and conscious way.
-Remember that each sexual session will be its own unique journey. Don’t give up on yourself or your partner if there are setbacks. Sexuality is a dynamic experience and ever-changing.
Surrender and enjoy your pleasure to the fullest!
With love,
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One Response
Hi Tallulah,
I’ve been playing on expanding my sexuality, learning how to expand sensation, feel more, experience more for several years now.
A HUGE piece of my exploration lay in learning how to relax, let go and not just physically. It has been and continues to be a process of releasing old “stuff” that not only interferes with my life but also sexual sensation. The more I let go, the more I have been able to feel, and the stronger and more intense have been these feelings.
I have never experienced female ejaculation, and it is something I would love to add to my repertoire. I purchased FLO this past weekend, and my man and I got right to play time. So far I feel new things in that I’ve done some of this on my own, but to have him be in charge and “milking” (love that word) me feels different, and I do like it.
But recently I have noticed changes again as my hormones have been changing. I fear I’m losing what Ive gained and will continue to do so.
So these are my questions. As women age, our hormone levels drop dramatically. Wouldn’t this impede a woman’s ability to experience orgasm, its intensity and its duration? Wouldn’t this making reaching orgasm a take longer experience? Is it possible that an older woman no matter how great she looks, how in good health and good shape she is, how many bio-identical hormones or herbs she ingests be less capable of FLO as well as those orgasms that just grab onto you and feel SO amazing?
Thank you.
Dominique