Ever tried guessing the perfect gift for a friend?
Sometimes it works, but other times, not so much. The same goes for pleasure—guessing just won’t cut it! Luckily for us, with a keen eye and open communication, we can discover the secret to our partner’s desires.
Even luckier… I got the chance to chat with the creme de la creme of the sex toy industry. Absolute experts who know the numbers behind the most in-demand forms of pleasure in the market. Who better to ask for some of the juiciest info?
So, instead of playing the guessing game, we should be playing detective! Sexual super sleuths! Check out her toy collection, see what she loves, and then use that info to your advantage.
BUT… don’t forget to talk to her. Ask her what she likes and wants, and be open to her answers. After all, pleasure isn’t a one-size-fits-all kind of deal, and what works for one person might not work for the other.
When we stop guessing and start understanding, that’s when we unlock the key to absolute peak pleasure. And who doesn’t want that, am I right?
So my question was…
“How To Know What Kind of Stimulation Your Girlfriend Wants Based On Her Sex Toys.”
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For Round 3, Kristen Tribby, Head of Global Marketing at FunFactory, says…
“I love the topic—very smart idea. I’ve never thought about it this way, and it was fun to break it down. I often pair people with sex toys based on how they first found their orgasm. It’s the same concept, but this one is more interesting.
If she has a Stronic (thrusting toy)—she likes steady penetration focusing on the vaginal opening and G-region (G-spot). She also likes external pressure and movement. Often she will find more pleasure in being on top and in control of her movements. Encourage her to grind on you or position a pillow she can grind on while you stimulate her from behind. If you want to explore more, she may find a lot of pleasure in using a strap-on for pegging, as the pressure with the thrusting movement can be very pleasurable.
If she has a Dual action toy (aka rabbit-style vibe), she needs internal and external stimulation to orgasm. During oral, make sure to use your fingers. During penetration, use a vibe on her clit, a vibrating c-ring, or skilled fingers (yours or hers).
If she likes Suction toys—she likes her oral, where the mouth anchors around the clit creating a seal while there is a consistent movement with a flattened tongue.
Does she have showerheads and wands? She will like firm, consistent pressure. A good way to do this is to position your fingers on either side of the clit and rapidly move them up and down (fluttering).
Does she enjoy Pin Point vibrators (external)? Find her perfect spot on the clit (many women favor one side or the other) and stay hyper-focused on that area with your mouth or fingers.
If he likes broad-based vibrators (external)—she likes the full vulva accessed. Try cupping her vulva using pressure and slight but fast movement (almost a shaking feeling). Depending on your position while cupping, you can use a finger to stimulate the vaginal opening with the same hand. This creates consistency in the movement.
Does she fancy butt plugs? She likes some sort of anal stimulation, but it doesn’t always mean thrusting. Sometimes butt plugs can be only about the feeling of fullness, and she might not like the feeling of movement. If she only likes the feeling of fullness that comes with a plug, try stimulating the outside of the anus with a lubed finger. Or try using a few fingers to put pressure and stimulate the pelvic floor (clean finger! No butt to vag).
If she likes internal vibrators—she likes vibration on her clitoral legs. With a lubed hand, rhythmically massage the labia along the clitoral legs (internal to the body surrounding the vaginal opening) and the vaginal opening.
If her vibrator is strong and rumbly light, inconsistent movements will be annoying. The stick will have firm pressure and faster, consistent movements.
If her vibrator is light and buzzy, fast and firm movements could be painful. Stick with light and soft sensations.”
It’s so amazing that we have such a wide array of toys and gadgets available for our pleasure, right?
There’s a perfect match for everyone, no matter their preferences.
In the end, my dear, the most important thing to remember is that each person is unique. So let’s throw out any preconceived notions and listen to our partners. After all, knowledge is power. And in this case, it’s also a whole lot of fun!
As I always say: Be open, adventurous, and safe. Let’s keep these conversations going because they’re the key to unlocking a more fulfilled and joyful life, in and out of the bedroom!
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