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Why Do Some Women Squirt and Others Don’t?

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With all that liquid being expelled during squirting, I just had to ask,  “what produces it and why is it that some ladies squirt and others don’t?” — P.F., Port Harcourt, Nigeria

Dear P.F.,

The liquid that is being expelled from the urethra is prostatic fluid.

It comes from the female prostate which is also known as the G-Spot.

Believe it or not, women have a prostate just like men do!

In fact, the prostatic fluid has the same components as ejaculate except without the semen.

This fluid is clear and watery and can be released in amounts from a few droplets up to more than a cupful.

Women can ejaculate once in a session or several times.  It can dribble, gush, spurt, squirt and anything in between.

There are several ducts called paraurethral glands which feed into the urethral canal which are housed inside that spongy mound with ridges called the G-Spot.

Learn more about G-spot:

 

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When she is aroused and or stimulated, these glands fill with fluid and get engorged with blood and release the ejaculate through the urethral canal when she expels the ejaculate either through pushing it out voluntarily or releasing it involuntarily.

All women have the capacity to ejaculate because we all have the anatomy to do so.  Here are some reasons why women don’t ejaculate:

  • She simply doesn’t know it is possible or even exists.
  • She mistakes the feeling of needing to ejaculate for the feeling of needing to pee and either holds back or goes to the bathroom.
  • She has a hard time getting into a deeply aroused and surrendered place sexually.
  • She is not with a partner she feels comfortable with.
  • She doesn’t masturbate and is not in touch with her body
  • She has body image issues and self-consciousness
  • She doesn’t know where her G-Spot is and it is not getting enough stimulation
  • She is afraid to let go or she is afraid the ejaculate might make a mess
  • She has experienced sexual abuse, shame or trauma.
  • Her Pelvic Floor Muscles or PC (Pubo Cocxygeus) Muscles are too tense or too weak
  • She is not giving herself adequate enough time to build up the ejaculate and get into a highly aroused state

These are just a few reasons I have helped women address over the years through my program, Female Liquid Orgasm for men and couples, my program for women called Squirt Your Heart Out and my international SquirtShop workshops.

Just remember that there is nothing inadequate about you if you don’t or can’t ejaculate.  You are not less than if you don’t ejaculate.  So have lots of compassion for wherever you are at along your sexual journey and know that it is perfect.  Just keep opening and exploring your sexuality and follow what brings you pleasure and connection with yourself and your partner.

Wishing you the Best!
Tallulah Sulis

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77 Comments

  1. i’m a girl of 21yr and i have been datin for a year nw bt i have never sqiut before.i seriously wont to have that experience.pls help me out

    • I can help u with that problem!!…just email me briardown@gmail

      • Hi I would like to k is how to make my gf squrit and if all girls canncuz I have been trying everything and its not working

    • okay dear it is not a difficult matter try to make your hand or your’s bf hand in your G.Spot wit the passage of time you would soon squirt try to do this practice 3 to 5 times in a given occasion

  2. i’m a girl of 21yr and i have been datin for a year nw bt i have never squirt before.i seriously wont to have that experience.pls help me out

  3. I just have my first squirt, few droplets. I would like to know if I am able to squirt more.

    • Hi Mela,
      YES! And congratulations on feeling the first signs of wetness. Keep putting your attention on pushing out and letting go and you will see it go from a little moistness to a few drops and continue to escalate until you can actually shoot it out like a firehose. . . As long as you are anatomically built to squirt like a hose. Most women are. And every woman is capable of having ejaculatory orgasms.
      Best,
      S

      • I like the way you explain things to experience the feeling of Squirts.Does it connected with the gentle scratching of the ‘G’ spot?

      • Susan, you seem to know what you’re talking about.
        Here is my experience with squirting. Up until this last year (I’m 20 and have been sexually active since 16) I had no idea I could squirt. At first that was something pornstars did that I completely did not understand. I did for my first time when I was with my ex who was very confident and experienced. He made it a point to try and get me to squirt and knew exactly how to do it. Since then, I have done it here and there but it seems to get more and more frequent and “more” every time. I have no idea why. My partner won’t even be trying. And I’ve surprised some men before who have never ever experienced making a female squirt and I can’t help but feel kind of embarrassed every time I do it. I guess I just get in to it but I’m wondering if it might have something to do with how I flex the inside of my vagina over and over during sex? Please help. Is there a way to get it to stop when I want to? I don’t know how to feel about this!

  4. I can squirt all night long soak beds for hours , will I get hurt doing it like that , If I drink water I can even go more, I just do not want to hurt my body by doing it so much if it is not good for me thanks

    • Hi Janell,

      Good for you! You can squirt as much as you want. It will not hurt you. Definitely drink a lot of water to make sure you stay hydrated. You are a true goddess!

      • How does it tastes? sweet of salty? Of course the liquid should taste good at the height of experiencing ejaculation.

        • It’s just like semen. Whatever your lady eats affects the taste of the ejactulate. Most the time, my wife’s has a sweet taste. No salty taste.

    • I hope you like doing the washing and drying the sheets. Jesus, it would be like having sex with someone who needs a nappy!
      I say go outside in the rain and mix it all up. then you wouldn’t worry bout the sheets and your lover wouldn’t need an umbrella!

  5. Hello I’m a 30 year old female. Been happily married for 10 yrs. I’m very comfortable with my body and with my husband. I have been having orgasms for years. Started when I was a teen! When I have the orgasm it just basically feels like I become wetter on the inside. I don’t actually squirt. Am I unable to squirt?

    • im 19yr and same here! i have a boyfriend that i love and he is the one. he does everything that i like so i have pleasure and i have orgasms every day, but i never squirted and i dont know why.

  6. I think everybody can do it, just a matter of practice.

    • Hi there I’m a guy n I would like to say that its good for u n I’m sure that ur husband would b greatly Desirable when u do it in sex’so get urself comfortable n use to it I’m sure he will like it.and generally speaking all guys like when his woman do that it just gives more pleasure to him in sex,as for me I like it when my wife squirts it gives me grate pleasure and the more she do it the more overwhelm I get.so keep it up!

      • Try the two middle fingers doing a cum here motion, you will feel a spongy bit of the Vagina about 2 inches in. Stroke it towards the the top of the pelvis. Feel it swell with fluid listen to her breathing and quickly extract your fingers and rub her clit. This works for me most often, however not all women squirt , they just get very wet, either way if you give them a g spot orgasm, you set yourself apart from most men and they will become addicted to you and your skills
        Gold Coast Australia

  7. I wd do anything 2 atleast squirt once in life,if there was anyway,tired of hearing about this in rumours,someone help me out

    • This is coming from a guy …

      I have made woman , orgasm many times but only squirt once … The difference in experiences was this …

      1. She was already aware and confident that she could
      2. I was confident enough to know that I could get her to that point
      3. We communicated well so we both knew where we were , and how we were both feeling during the experiece.

      So I say those things to say that you may actually need to accept that fact that although it hasnt happened yet , It can. Also find a party who is somewhat already sexually experienced his or herself. A Newbie won’t be able to help you much. Lastly, communication is key. The more familiar you are with your body, the more you can direct your partner on exactly how to get you where your trying to go.

      Hope I helped

      Best of Luck

      MC

    • I figured out how to squirt today, when you are about the have an orgasm, push down and out,instead of closing your legs and stopping. then it will all come gushing. worked for me twice tonight…Normally whenever i would have clitoral stimulation and orgasm i would tense my whole body, close my legs and stop touching it since i could barely take it anymore, it would feel crazy, and make me shake, But this time instead of stopping him, i left my legs open and he kept going, i pushed out a little and sure enough i squirted for the first time. it was amazing, and my body was shaky for almost an hour afterward. I have been with my partner for 7 years, always had orgasms but never squirted. until today!!!

      • I am happy for U ..I have a new girlfriend that never really ever did in her whole life either. After 3 months of going out and her comfort level was good I told her to open her legs and after building her up I used my 2 fingers and used the up and down motion with just 2 inches inside her hitting her G spot. Within 1 min she gushed so much she was shaking all over , made a huge mess LOL ..I was able to repeat this 5 more times with her. Now a week later I tell her when to push and it comes out like a hose its so wild NEVER have I seen such a wild mess ..All I did was watch a video on this and thats how I learned so I am thinking MAYBE all woman or most can do this. Good Luck either way!!

        • What video did you watch?????

  8. Not everyone can squirt, that’s the first thing every woman must know, its a rear phenomenon, its either you do or you dont, you cannot learn it…atall..its just like not all women are bursty and not all women have hips, and no all women are tall..etc..
    if you cannot squirt, the best thing is to relax, enjoy the sex, try to understand your body and what makes you climax and how your body reacts to a climax…forget the squirting…
    you are very normal if you don’t squirt…and yes, u have an extra charm if you squirt, but squirting does not determine fabulous sex….i love the fact that i squirt…i squirt to a fault…changing sheets and towels…ma boy enjoys it and he keeps coming back for more..buh, it does not mean if you don’t, ur not having a nice time…so not every woman can squirt…

    • Hi, Holly,
      Though I appreciate your kind comments, they are not quite accurate.

      Every woman is fundamentally able to squirt.
      Every woman is physically able to ejaculate.
      Women’s bodies ejaculate.

      You are normal whether you squirt or not.

      Squirting can be learned by any woman.

      Warmly,
      Susan

  9. My wife is 41 and has had a complete hysterectomy is she still able to squirt

    • Yes. Any woman can ejaculate and the uterus and fallopian tubes (the pieces removed from a hysterectomy) do not affect a woman’s ability to ejaculate.

  10. Yikes! Cant squirt?! OMG… Call out the Army. I guess that I am juzt lucky, having squirted upon at an early age!!

  11. I have no problem with reaching a climax, in fact I typically have multiple orgasms. Yet, I have never actually squirted. I do ejaculate, but it is thicker than what I have seen from squirting videos (not as thick as males). I am 36, married and very open sexually…. tips on how to reach that point of squirting?

    • Firstly your entire article is biased.Clearly you are a “squirter”. You list all the reasons why, in your uneducated view, some women do not “squirt” and then you go on with the disclaimer “Just remember that there is nothing inadequate about you if you don’t or can’t ejaculate. You are not less than if you don’t ejaculate. ” This is a ridiculous post.

    • I make my wife squirt two, three, four times every sesh. It works best if the girl is riding and she sits up straight while the guy just drills her and holds her hips. Another great squirting position is girl lays on her back guy is on his knees and lifts girls legs. Straight up and goes in deep fast and hard

  12. I’ll make all of you squirt…

  13. I love it when the woman squirt when we’re having sex!! Some dribble others literally gush and squirt and sometimes their orgasm leaves them unable to move for a minute or so, but in a pleasurable way and during this time they’ve all asked me to continue to fuck them hard as the next orgasm and squirt is even more intense!!!
    It truly is an amazing experience! I love pleasing these ladies :)

  14. I have only made 6 women squirt in my life. But for me it is such an awesome thing to watch a women experience such an intense orgasm when their bodies start shaking violently and they can’t stop….

  15. I really think that not all women have the capacity to squirt.
    The worst hit are African women or black women.

    Without meaning to be disrespectful…a good number of black women have inability to stay wet…no matter their level of arousal or how much they arr comfortable with their partners they just cant squirt except for a tiny few.

    Many of them do have orgasms…but its all deep inside…their vaginas reflect no unusual wetness let alone squirt.

    White women, latinas and Asians are more juicy and wetter than our women and they squirt more.

    My observation, no offense intended please.

    • Black women squirt just as much and are just as wet

  16. I have been married for 25 years. I have been with probably 10 women in my lifetime deeply intimately. I have made all of them squirt. 8 of them never had before. I focus a great deal in multiple stimulations at once. Clitoral, g-spot, rimming, scratching gently on legs, back and buttocks. With each one you can tell which one is their primary trigger, and which are secondary. I alternate till I know my partner’s spots and I have made women squirt with clitoral stimulation only. With g spot stimulation only. Or a combination of sensations. The key here is knowing this session will be 75% about her needs and let her lay back and enjoy the next couple hours. I may not get my reward then…due to being very tired…but it comes back around eventually. When your man takes the time to fully find your triggers and make you feel complete you will have 20-30 orgasms and 2-3 squirts. Work on Keegal exercises it will allow you to push at the right time. Try keegal beads or Benwah balls to strengthen the muscle group. Your man will love you for that!!

  17. I was only able to do it with 2/7 of my partners and I think it’s because I didn’t really feel comfortable with the other 5. I just grab their hips or buttocks very tight and keep swinging her body, you could feel something spongy on the tip of your penis when you’re touching the spot and just keep rubbing it until they squirt. Idk if size matters because mine is not huge, it is about 8 inches. You also have to make sure she’s very very aroused too though that’s my experience. Being so concentrated on making it happen never let me come, but their reaction was by far more satisfying.

    • omg, i think you’re confused between g-spot and uterus. with a 8 inches dick, btw, not short (?) if you can only feel something spongy on the TIP of your penis, then this is definitely the end of the vagina (which is generally 6-8 inches deep), not the g-spot! the g-spot is just inside, in the entrance of the vagina

      your thoughs on this susan?

  18. I read how everyone wants to squirt…. But how do you squirt less? I don’t mind squirting, at certain times it is great but I squirt so much all the time it causes such a mess that I stop before I orgasm just so I won’t squirt and make a mess in the bed. I’m starting to feel squirting is becoming a curse :(

    • Please darling,dont feel that wayl Men love it. I wish i could take a shower all the time in a women’s squirting fluid. Wow. Wow..embrace it. don’t curse it. I wish you could sqiurt on me NOW.

    • No sweetheart!truly a real guy loves it a lot when u can squirt over n over it gives him great joy so don’t b afraid us men loves it a lot!!!

    • Just use underpads for your bed. I get the XL 30″X36″ It will soak up all the good juices.
      Have fun from now on.

  19. Its more that a great pleasure for a guy who knows how get his woman to squirt and also if she does it on her own for him.a real man knows the joy n overwhelming feeling when his woman can squirt over n over again.he can’t resist it,n its also a womans secrite to keep her man coming after her.only a real man knows it all.n as for me I can’t enjoy sex if my woman doesn’t do it I can’t.so ladies don’t hold it in we men loves it a lot n trust me on this!!!

  20. It is the best pleasure in sex for a guy who loves when his woman squirts.but generally a real man loves when his woman squirts.it gives him great pleasure n when she can squirsts over n over it jusT gives great joy n overwhelming feelings to enjoy sex to a maximum climate.we men loves it,n its also a womans secret of keeping him coming after u.

  21. Hello, I am a relatively new squirter with many questions. Your article has answered many, thank you!
    I do have a question that even Google can not seem to answer. Is there a link between after enjoying a squirting orgasms to not being able to control other bodily functions, in my case I am referring to twitching and crying.
    I can understand why I can not stop twitching, some organs can be very intense. However after climax I can not control myself from crying. I’m not sad. My boyfriend and I joke about me being so “full of fluids” I’m “leaking” everywhere. Do you have any answers for me?
    Thank you.

    • Hi Knox,
      Thanks for asking about the twitching and crying. This does happen to many women. The crying comes from the emotional release that your ejaculatory orgasms create. For many women, the first year or two that they begin to ejaculate (or even for women who are having clitoral, G-Spot, cervical or vaginal orgasms without ejaculation) there is a discharging of upset and stored emotional energy that triggers tears.
      The twitching is also common and can be very powerful for some people. Google the word, “KRIYA” to learn more. Kriya is a Sanskrit word that means action. Often associated with “Kundalini rising”, kriyas are involuntary body movements that are related to an increase in “life force” or prana/Chi/Qi.
      You are moving energy in your body. This sexual energy is “life force” which is also “desire.” The orgasms “reboot” your system and interact with the enteric nervous system. Don’t be afraid of these releases. They are natural, and won’t last as long as you are not “stuffing” your emotions. Let the ejaculation refresh you. Embrace your body’s way of discharging your emotions.
      I hope this helps, Knox. Thanks for asking such a valuable question.
      Warmly,
      Susan

      • For all you men, easiest way to make your girl squirt is to use your fingers as your penis. In a fast pace motion go in and out. Takes 2-4 mins tops and your gonna have a soaked bed. Susan would agree

  22. I am 44 years old and never thought i could squirt let alone have an organism. My new man in my life turned me into a faucet and it’s better than anything u could ever experience i cannot get enough of him. Our bed is soaked on a daily basis and I cannot wait for him to get home at night. It seems I’m a teenager all over again. And he loves watching me squirt, quite a turn on.

  23. I, too, love when my wife squirts. It is such a pleasure seeing and feeling her reach that level of pleasure.
    As for all that fluid, we use the Liberator throw underneath us when we make love. It’s waterproof and keeps the sheets nice and dry. Since she can release up to a half cup or more of fluid, we also put a thick bath towel under us to soak up all our love juices.
    Good luck and happy pleasures to everyone. Keep trying if you haven’t experienced squirting. Be patient, stay relaxed and let the loving continue. It’ll be worth it when it finally cums!
    -KC

  24. Hi I’m a married man who has often made my wife squirt but the last gusher she had she almost blacked out! So now she is very apprehensive and scared when we have sex! Any ideas?

  25. Ha…. I think this is funny. Sucks if she pushes or tries to squirt and she actually just pisses everywhere. Sucks for that couple and whatever they’re doing it on.

  26. Very Interesting

  27. I am only 18 and I mastered squirting 2 years ago. However, I feel that most men need some help when it comes to them getting girls to squirt. No one I’ve been with can do it!!

    • How were you able to do that?? Maybe if i can master it by myself i could then do it with my man. Idk if it will work though…being 39yrs old and having had a hysterectomy. I also heard that when your younger you are more wet and more sensitive in your vagina.

  28. My husband and i have been married for 13yrs. He is a well-endowed man but a selfish lover. When he does have sex with me(which is not very often)he wants me to cum just with sex….no foreplay! I have made myself cum using a dildo so i know i can cum without touching my clitoris. He has failed the few times hes tried & he says hes done trying. His ex could achieve not only a vaginal orgasm but also she was able to gush! I asked him about it & he told me he loved it…the bed was soaked and he licked up her juices. Him giving up on me on me in the bedroom which doesn’t help our marriage. I love sex(I’m kinda a nympho)but it doesn’t matter to him if we have sex or not. I have a lot of sex dreams but nobody to please me in real life! I want to be able to have vaginal orgasms and gush so we both are fulfilled in sex! I don’t no what to do our where to begin! HELP!

    • You married an asshole. He shouldn’t give up on you about that – if he loved you, he’d want to make you feel good. He’d get off on it. If he is SO lazy and selfish that he has completely given up on giving you orgasms, he’s a seriously bad lover and honestly, either talk to him about it on a really serious level or consider a divorce. A selfish lover usually entails a selfish husband.

    • He is selfish. I have more pleasure when my girl has more. So he should be trying to do whatever he can to please you. I wouldn’t mind helping if I could, give up “Never”

  29. Hi,

    I have just recently heard about this squirting orgasm. I’ve never had a woman squirt im my sex life. Can anyone tell me how I can get my partner have some squirting orgasm, because I’d love to see her squirt.

  30. I have a problem where i cum whenever my man sucks on my earlobe.the problem is we recently mastered squirting. So now im squirting in public whenever he comes near my earlobe. Its so embarrassing and everyonr thinks i pee myself without restraint.help !!

    • don’t worry that you can train to omit your squirt inorder to command your mine

  31. I actually didn’t know what it was. I’m an older woman that had an encounter with a gentleman younger than me.We planned to have sex together. I went to his place after we got to know each other.He said I was a Goddess an African Queen( I’m black he’s white)I was so relaxed. I was so sexually aroused I had multiple orgasms He was hitting the G spot and we were like freakin zoned out to just passion…When we were done i was so wet underneath me..T thought i had peed but he told me i was squirting.Does the man know it while having sex……I can’t wait till our next episode !

  32. I’ve been trying to squirt for a while now, and I just can’t get there. My bf is inexperienced and I just can’t seem to get there by myself… I tried to “push” it out when I get to climax, but nothing happens. I’ve watched the videos and am completely relaxed with him. nada… any tips?

  33. Susan,

    Is female ejaculate acidic, or alkaline?

  34. I can squirt like a looooot, but most of the times when I feel it coming it can’t go out if the dick is inside, but if I pull it out it sprays immediately.. It feels better if when I pull it out he rubs it around my clit

  35. I’ve been a VERY FORTUNATE hedonist! I’ve had nine committed relationships, in my 64 years of life; with SIX squirters among them! And, THREE of them; were multi-orgasmic, as well!!!

    • Eddie… you are lucky indeed!

  36. Hi guys. Interesting to read all your stories from the UK. Do love a squirter. Anyone up for some fun? To find them is white rare I find

  37. I didn’t squirt the first time for real until I was 44 with a hot new younger but experienced lover. I think I might have leaked some before with my exH but was embarrassed and stopped it, and I had always had trouble reaching orgasm at all.
    With the new lover I was feeling free and super turned on. Our first time together after a LOT of build up I squirted. I was on my back with him on his knees between my legs that were pulled up in his lap. He took his penis in his hand and rubbed me all over with it…hard and rough with the head. It was amazing!!! Now I can squirt with any rough penetration or external stimulation like that. Fisting is crazy for making me squirt, too. Love it!!

  38. So to make a women squirt you need to rub her clitoris ryt? “want to know HELP”

    • Hi Joel,
      Different women ejaculate with different stimulation. Some women ejaculate from having their clitoris stroked, some from their G-Area palpated and others from a blend of the two. As well, some women can ejaculate simply through the penetration of intercourse or even just from fantasy. You’ll have to experiment with your woman, but I can tell you that the stroke patterns inside Female Liquid Orgasm make it a sure thing that you’ll know all the possible moves to make any woman experience the joy of female ejaculation.
      Wetly,
      Susan

  39. At th age of 18 in 2008 when i firstly made a gal squirt i was scared and i thot she was dying, she was weak, her whole body was shaking involuntary and she took too long to get back to normal, i was scared. This month i made 3 gals squirt that believed they cant squirt. Every gal has an ability to squirt, believe me.

  40. I so agree with the comfortable part. I was in a crappy marriage then started messing around with this guy. We were together for 8 months and I never fully felt comfortable with him. He’d try to make me squirt but I never could. After him I got involved with a police officer who served me lol. Anyway I felt comfortable with him and the first time (and every time) we’ve done it I’ve squirted multiple times.

  41. did you see the squirt of veronica avluv and can a woman squirt like her and with her speed she could squirt in just 3 seconds and the times od it is alot from 20 to 40 times

  42. I am in my 40s and just recently starting squirting. The first time I didn’t even know what it was – my partner had to tell me – at my age! I was on top and soaked him and his bed 3 times.
    I was with another, very skilled, partner this week and found that I can squirt through vaginal penetration, finger stimulation, and also external stimulation. He made me squirt so much that I soaked the bed and doubled up towels – soaked!! Think we stopped counting around 12 times.
    I have no idea why I just started squirting when I never had before but it’s awesome. I always thought it was fake!

  43. Here is a suggestion for you ladys, It worked for me get on your knees and rub a vibrator on your g spot, as if in a praying position. Its harder for your body to hold back relase in this position one time in this positon is all it took, unless I put a plastic liner on my bed I soak the mattress and my boyfriend for hours.

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